I know I am the one one who moved away, and that their lives are continuing as normal.
I am aware that the onus is largely on me to keep in touch.
Some friends are responsive and the friendships continue beautifully long distance.
Other friends completely 'drop off the radar' when you are no longer in their day-to-day lives.
I feel hurt about the ones who who simply are not available/unresponsive - especially when I consider them to be some of my closest friends!!
Obviously this rant has been prompted by something specific: After leaving several voice mail messages for a friend, with no response, I emailed to arrange a time to speak. I called this morning (as arranged), and got her voicemail.
I know she is extremely busy, and must 'make time' for our friendship now that I am not around most every day. But, I feel hurt and a bit put out. It makes me feel our friendship matters far more to me than her.
If I lose my energy/motivation for keeping in touch, the friendship will fade. I don't want that, but don't see much future for the friendship if she doesn't respond.
Anyone else here been through this? How do you handle it?
Would you say anything, and if so, what?
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How best to Keep in touch with friends/family 'back home' - vent, rant, whine
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Earlybird · 02/02/2010 15:16
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