Dh hates it here in Australia. Said last weekend that he now understands why he left here in 1989. I just don't know what to do. He wants to go back to the UK, I don't. If we go back he will be happy, I will be miserable. I don't get homesick, I miss friends, but that's all I miss.
I did as he asked, I gave it all up in June 06 to start a new life with him in Australia. EVERYTHING I had ever known for 32 years, friends/family/familiarity ....EVERYTHING.....
He missed family, he wanted his daughter to know his family better than an odd visit here & there, he didn't like the UK....so many points he used to sell Australia to me. But in reality it didn't take much, I always said I'd follow him here, if that is what he wanted. And now he wants me to do it all over again, only I can't! I can't give it all up again. I think he is the problem, I think Australia/UK, he will still be unhappy. But he thinks the problem can be solved by leaving one country for another. The other thing is...I have no idea what the 'problem' is....
Now, I have to live with the fact that my actions (or inactions) are making him miserable & I don't know how long I can go on feeling like this. Feeling that at any time he can throw it in my face. He is miserable & it is my fault. Said he'd be on a plane tomorrow if I would go. He says he knows it is his fault he is unhappy & he doesn't blame anyone but himself.....But each day as his mood darkens I find it harder to believe.
I told him I couldn't live with him being this miserable & snappy for the rest of my life & he said I wouldn't have to, he'd not be here long enough. That he wouldn't stay here that long becuase he has never been more miserable than these past 2 months.
So do we live eternity being miserable, because if we are together here or in the UK either one of us will be, or do we call it a day & I stay here & he goes? That is, if I am allowed to stay here without him, as I couldn't enter the country without him....
Because I don't know what to do.
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