We moved to mainland Europe 12 years ago for DH work. I found a job similar to what I did in the UK and have made the best of it. I dont earn what I could have in the UK but I do enjoy it. There are aspects of my job that are 500 times better over here. My employers/ colleagues have been so supportive during 3 maternity leaves and its generaly a good work situation (though not well paid).
DH has a well paid job. We have a beautiful home. Our children are happy and have a dream life in the sunshine where they can play outdoors most days and speak 2 languages.
DH has not enjoyed his job for a long time now. It depresses him, and its becoming so bad that his moods are ruining our family time. He's now decided he wants to change career and return to the UK.
Fair enough, I dont want anyone to be miserable. Ive been looking for jobs and again I can see some opportunities for me. They are not that well paid but I could just about manage. The houses I could afford are nothing like our beautiful home here and my children would have to get used to life without a garden. The youngest of my children would loose their billingualism.
DH believes we should rent a more expensive home, taking into account his earnings. I dont think I can. I dont think I can trust him not to change his mind again. I wont want to uproot my children again. I need to know that their childhoods are secure and next time he doesnt like his job, it doesnt impact us all terribly.
He thinks its ridiculous that I would force us all to live on my lesser salary. I know it seems stubborn but I cant loose my home and my life again.
Does anyone else have any experience of this?
And if you returned to the UK, how did your kids handle it?
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Londresdemain · 27/02/2018 05:55
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