Hi,
We have a potential move to Zurich (for 1-3 years, possibly longer if we want to stay) coming up in the next few months. It's a transfer with my husband's job (he works for UBS in London presently). I'm up for it in general but have reservations about moving our kids there due to the fact that none of us speak German!
We wouldn't be going on a cushy ex-pat package and so no international school fees would be paid (and there's no way that we can afford to pay it!), so we would be enrolling our 7.5 yo daughter in a local school. I have no qualms about her going to a local school apart from the fact that she speaks no German (neither do we). I've read on some online forums that she would be given language support, but was wondering if anyone had any experience of this? I'm excited about the potential move and looking forward to integrating into Swiss society rather than living in an expat bubble (although would also like to be part of an expat community), and I'm assuming that by our kids attending local schools rather than an international one we will have a better chance at integrating.
Our other daughter is 4 yo (and would be due to start school in the UK in Sept 2018), so I'm assuming she would go to kindergarten until she's 7. I'm less worried about the 4 yo as she hasn't established friendships yet or settled into school and I think picking up the language at her age would be even easier than for a 7 yo?
My other worry about the 7 yo is that I'm not sure if she has some gender identification issues going on (it may well be that she's just not a conventional feminine girl, and we are loathe to label her at this young age, so for now we assume that she's just a girl who doesn't like to look particularly feminine and shuns typically feminine toys/interests) . For all intents and purposes everyone who sees her (and doesn't know her) assumes she is a boy and she rarely corrects them. I am happy for her to continue the way she is until she's feels the need to 'come out' (if at all). All her friends and friend's parents are totally accepting of the way she is, but I worry about her settling into a new school in a country where she will not be able to properly communicate at the start. We moved to a new school at the start of year 1 and had a few issues in the initial weeks with people being confused about her gender even though she and her teachers explained that she is a girl! I don't know how we would manage this where it will be difficult for us to explain that she is in fact a girl). I know that many people in Switzerland speak good English, but I don't know about children her age and obviously not all adults will. Does anyone know how accepting Swiss people are in general of non-typical/alternative people/lifestyles etc. My observations have been that they are generally a bit more conservative (apologies if this is a terrible sweeping generalisation).
My only experience of the Swiss is based on a few visits that I had there about 10 years ago when my Dad lived in Zurich for a few years and I had a Swiss German boyfriend about 15 years ago! My husband works with Swiss (german speaking) and German colleagues daily, and visits Zurich occasionally and he thinks we will be fine and that I'm worrying too much!
Sorry for the long post. My main questions are:
- as non german speakers, would our children be supported in a local school until their language skills improve?
- are the Swiss generally open minded about non-conventional people/lifestyles?
- is there a strong and supportive ex-pat community there that we would be able to join to help us settle in?
If you got this far - thanks