I am posting more because I need to vent than because I need advice or anything like that. I know I am probably more annoyed than I need to be, but I don't think IABU to be annoyed at my monster in law asking questions and guilt tripping me 😩.
So my Australian DH and I moved here to Aus 11 months ago with DC 4 and 2. If you've followed my threads I've been majorly home sick and at my wits end on and off for most of the past year.
So we are heading over to the UK on Tuesday for 3 weeks (wahoo 🎉!!) and over the past few weeks when I've seen the MIL (barely once or twice a month mind) she started saying things like "the kids have waited so long for you to be here, they waited so longboard for you to move. They love having you here" etc etc. I was thinking that's odd for her to bring that up but maybe she was just feeling sentimental or something.
Anyway, visited yesterday and she started talking about how my DHs health has improved since moving back and that he hasn't had a cold this winter and that "he always had a cold in the UK" and she knows that one "one of our reasons for moving back" because of my husbands failing health he's 36 and in top form! We moved for th UK. I wouldn't say his health was failing.... 😵 I asked DH about this and he said no that was never a reason for moving back. I swear my MIL makes this 💩 up.
And then she started saying how well the kids have settled and are they enjoying it? Etc etc. Then she asked if I was enjoying it here (only took her 11 months to ask). And I was honest and said yes I am but I miss my family terribly. They looked after our DC while I worked, I saw them 4 or more times a week and my sister twice a week. Putting it bluntly I've been bloody demented this year with home sickness, not that she'd have noticed or cared .
But here's the thing. She then started saying "the kids will miss each other if you love back" here she means my DC 4 and 2 and my nephews on my DHs side aged 5 and 7. She said the kids are settling into life here now and making friends etc etc (I remind you of their ages). Basically it was a MASSIVE guilt trip about my feelings of wanting to go home which I mentioned a few months ago. I am so frigging annoyed as I will not be guilt tripped into staying in Australia because the kids will miss each other and my husband hasn't had a cold this year
To be honest I am really upset with her and feel worse than I did before as I clearly aeenow that she has absolutely no regard for my emotional and mental wel being. I am clearly on my own here as I have felt for the majority of the time.
I can't believe she stuck her oar in to our marital decisions guilt tripping me about it. I have been in some really low places this year, and they've been a pretty 💩 family towards me at times, is she bloody surprised I want to go home? She should have thought about that back when I need some bloody support.
I feel so sorry for my DH. His family are just horrible at times.
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WS12 · 26/08/2017 22:58
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