Why can't I decide?(3 Posts)
So a job has come up with my company in NY (Manhattan). If I looked back to my pre kids state it's probably my dream job, it's a good package and would be really good for career development.
We're in London at the moment with two pre school DCs, two of us working full time, many etc. Our jobs mean 55-70 hours worth of work is week and DH doesn't love his job. The constant pressure to juggle work for both of us is a nightmare (I am on my way to work on my flexible working day because something has blown up). DH is definitely in the camp of we need to try something new.
I am super excited about the new job, but I still can't quite get my head around the move. In part I think that's because I am so knackered with everything else I don't have the headspace and in part because whilst everything is a juggle we are still making it work and had just started to get things sorted (moving to a new house, eldest in an amazing nursery, good group of local friends around us).
Th other complicating factor is we also want another baby. I had split my leave with my husband previously so am used to a shorter time off but still means I will go into a job be there for probably 6 months and then be off.
Wish this job had come up in a years time ! Any words of wisdom on how I decide ?
Can you DH transfer? Find a job? Obtain the required visa?
If so go go go
Unless your family/friend support is vital to help with childcare. If you already are self reliant for that no hesitation, you'll work it out. London/NY same same.
Another thing to really really think through is to visualise and accept and look forward to life in NY as a young family. You don't want to be there and mourn the AMazing life you might have had if that was 5 years ago.
The only thing I would say is that moving overseas with a family brings lots of fun new things but it is super stressful in the beginning. It means total life reorganization and you and your partner will need the head space for that. I don't know what kind of package your work is offering, maybe they will manage all the practical stuff for you, but there will still be finding childcare/ schools, doctors, packing and unpacking, living without in the meantime, transport issues, utility setups, quirks of a new rental place, etc that take up a lot of time outside of the job. That also doesn't include building up a new network of friends. Don't mean to be a downer but it is good to bear in mind all of this before making a decision. This is coming from someone that is addicted to travel!
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