Moved to China back in August with my husband and 2.5 year old daughter, now almost 3. My daughter has settled in really well and is picking up the language really fast, we're now looking at kindergartens for her and she's really thriving.
I haven't settled in well at all - I feel desperately homesick and life here is really frustrating, I've been working hard at learning Chinese but I'm just not learning fast enough and I'm still not confident out and about by myself, I get nervous people will laugh at me when I try to speak. I'm an introverted person generally so I haven't made any friends, I chat to people at work but no one I can really talk to and spend time with outside of work. I know a lot of this I've brought on myself by not making much of an effort with people, I try to keep busy with working, studying and spending time with my daughter. Some days I feel OK and think I'm settling in, but other days I feel like the rug has been pulled out from underneath me and suddenly everything feels overwhelming.
I feel like a stranger in my own life, we moved in with my in laws when we first got here but we are still here and I'm really keen to have my own space. They are really lovely and welcoming but since everyone speaks Chinese in the house I feel like the outsider. When my husband comes home from work, which is fairly late since he's taken a job with a long commute, I feel like the first thing he does is get into a conversation with his parents in Chinese and I barely get a hello. They are currently the primary carers of my DD since I've gone back to work too, and whilst I still have a close relationship with her, I feel like I'm on the outside of the home dynamic.
If anyone has been through the same, please tell me it gets better :(
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Struggling with living overseas - homesick and feeling sad
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EEVEElution · 08/03/2017 01:21
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