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Whether you're considering emigrating or an expat abroad, you'll find likeminds on this forum.

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Living overseas

anyone just thought bugger it and gone home? how did it turn out?

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Lotsofplanetshaveanorth · 13/03/2016 08:57

I am sick to the back teeth of 'living' overseas.

After another shit Sunday I just don't think I can take many more. I hate it here. There is nothing to do. It is too hot. I work all week in a fulfilling but exhausting job, get to the weekend with no energy to do anything, not that there is anything to do even if I wanted to. I get up on Monday morning and lurch into it all over again.

And it's too hot.

Wibu to just pack a bag and the children and just go home...back in time for Easter? .Spend my paltry savings and hopefully get a job before they run out?

Been here for five years, found my tribe but they have mostly moved on. Tried to find a new bunch of friends through 'hobbies' but have t clicked with anyone enough to spend my spoons on (stressful job, two kids and chronic pain leaves so little)

We are planning to head back anyway in the next six months...BUT I can't organise any of this plus job hunting because of the stressful job and kids etc. so am currently on the lines of fuck it, pack a bag.

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Cleebope · 13/03/2016 10:02

So the grass isn't any greener over there? I spend half my days dreaming of living overseas somewhere hot, near the coast, and spending Sunday's walking on the beach, reading a book on the sand... It's a shame your tribe have left, but that happens back home too, maybe less so. Do you have family and friends to return to? I would say if you hate it then yeah, come back to the UK! There is certainly plenty to do on a Sunday these days!! I'm off to the gym for a swim, meeting a pal for a walk, tea at my mum's, taxing tens around etc. Love Sunday.

Lotsofplanetshaveanorth · 13/03/2016 10:40

Family and friends to return to (though acknowledge colour of grass. I could so easily walk on the beach and read a book.

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crazycatladyonthecorner · 13/03/2016 12:24

I have had my share of those days, weeks, months, years . I remember one particular melt-down in the local store with my dh. One too many trolley bumps (there is an inability to say "excuse me" here, would mean human interaction !!!!!) so they just bump your trolley out the way.
I could feel a wave of anger, resentment, frustration engulf me and I started crying in the frozen food isle. "I can't do this anymore" I wailed to my completely shell shocked hubby. He managed to talk me down AGAIN ( this not being an isolated event)
So yes I totally get it.

Pupsiecola · 13/03/2016 12:26

If you're going to return anyway in six months you may as well come back sooner. Also returning at this time of year is preferable to October (we came back in May. Poor DH came back in November). Where are you?

228agreenend · 13/03/2016 12:33

If you consider the UK as home, and not where you are currently living, then maybe that's not the place for you.

VimFuego101 · 13/03/2016 12:36

YANBU. How old are your kids? Surely it would be better to aim to be back a little earlier than 6 months time so they can start school at the start of term in Sept.

Ancienchateau · 13/03/2016 14:14

Yes I'd definitely come back now to get schools sorted out for September.

I sympathise. I live in a "lovely" place and find it very hard not to hate the place most days. Absolutely loathe Sundays too.

howabout · 13/03/2016 14:18

We came back without jobs to come to or anywhere to live. Much easier to sort everything out once we were home. If you are coming back in 6 months anyway I would get on with it now.

Lotsofplanetshaveanorth · 13/03/2016 20:09

Thanks for replies. I just can't bear it atm and can certainly relate to frozen food aisle meltdown. DH won't talk to me sigh.

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LaurieFairyCake · 13/03/2016 20:19

Why is there nothing to do where you live?

What was the point of going overseas to somewhere the equivalent of Swindon ?

Lotsofplanetshaveanorth · 13/03/2016 20:44

Ha! Great question laurie when you live in a northern city the thought of a tropical beach life sounded idyllic. It just hasn't quite worked out. I packed myself in my suitcase which was always going to be problematic

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LaurieFairyCake · 13/03/2016 20:49

Sounds lovely, reading a book on a lounger and staring at the sea

But I guess it gets boring after a while

chloeb2002 · 14/03/2016 03:14

I guess you signed up for a temporary move. It's not what you thought it would be and England is your home still.. Head back.

allegretto · 14/03/2016 21:41

I must admit I dread weekends as there is not much to do. I long for national trust properties and a cup of tea and cake (sad I know). If you are planning on going back anyway - what are you waiting for?

giggly · 14/03/2016 23:56

I did. Made the decision and moved back. Haven't regretted it one bit. So much more to do when not battling 40 degree heat.

Haggisfish · 15/03/2016 00:00

I packed myself in a suitcase-love that phrase!! Nothing useful to add, sorry.

Lotsofplanetshaveanorth · 15/03/2016 07:09

Thanks. Giggly ...yes yes yes. And man I would love an nt property and scones with jam and cream.

What am I waiting for? Well the trouble is that life (at least in the week) is so full on that I am so busy surviving that by the time I catch my breath I am shattered, I can't seem to organise a move / job hunt on top of life here. I consider resigning to focus on the move... But then worry about money. The old time money conundrum. Another option is for me to pack myself and the children up ...leave now and leave DH with all the shit to figure out (I moved us all over here as I was on maternity leave so had the headspace to do it all) he thinks he could do it because without us around he could get things sorted. That scares us both a bit though, we are quite a team in terms of parenting.

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Pupsiecola · 15/03/2016 09:53

We returned five months before DH. Unavoidable really due to suddenly being offered school places back in the UK and having to accept them and be living here within a month. It was tough at times, but that was partly because we didn't really want to leave (school didn't work out for DS2). And because we moved back to a new area where we knew no-one. And because DS2 then fell from 12ft and broke his leg in two places and spent 6 weeks in a wheelchair in full plaster (over the entire Summer holidays). BUT, we survived it. DH moved back in the November. It was tough at times but we are stronger than ever because of the experience and are celebrating our 14th wedding anniversary today.

I think it's an option for you as it would allow you to get settled here before September as PPs have said.

jomidmum · 15/03/2016 10:22

We are heading back to the UK at the end of the summer: DH will stay here as his job is secure and he's very happy in it. He'll travel back to the UK when he can and we will meet up with him in different places.
Our main reason for moving back is that there is a massive lack of home education community here in our area of KSA. I'm finding it quite isolating, and our approach to home ed has totally changed and we don't think it's the best thing for any of us. We'll have been here a year. Also, we're nervous about the increasing instability of the Middle East generally.
Being here has been a great experience generally, but being back in the UK with our wonderful home ed community will be fantastic!

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