Hi everyone. I've read the MN boards for quite some time but this is my first post. I'm not actually a mum (hope that's ok!) although one day I hope to be. I wanted to post as this seems like such an amazing resource for sharing experiences and gaining advice.
My DP is from New Zealand, and has lived in the UK for 5 years. I am British. We have been together for nearly two years; he is 30 and I am 28. He makes me so happy and I know he is the man I want to spend the rest of my life with. We have been talking about the future for a little while, although more so recently. We rent currently as part of a house share, but are saving for a house deposit and would like to live just the two of us, either in a rented property, or our own house, when our current tenancy runs out.
However, I know deep down that DP would like to return to New Zealand in the future, and has expressed that us buying a house here would be a difficult step for him, as in a sense he is committing to living here for the long term. In an ideal world, he would like to return to live in New Zealand, and settle down there to raise a family. We have looked at property online in both London (where we currently live) and New Zealand (specifically Wellington) and what you can get for your money in NZ compared to here is just ridiculous. The houses in NZ look just beautiful, huge gardens, so much space. Total contrast to the cramped one bed flats with a share of communal garden for £250K...
I haven't yet been to New Zealand, but we are going at Christmas. I know that he is very keen for me to like it there, and from what I've seen and heard, it does look an incredible place to live. I know that if we were to have children, it would be a great place for them to grow up. In terms of employment, my DP would most likely be able to find a job quickly. I would be able to build up my work more gradually, as I'm self-employed.
However, it's just....... so far away! I wouldn't be able to see my family regularly, and if we have children, it pains me that my parents wouldn't be able to see our children grow up, except on Skype. (So as not to drip feed, my Dad would be unable to make the flight to NZ for health reasons, so the only times we would be able to see my family are if we flew back to the UK).
I've done some research into what life would be like over there: as I understand it, the exchange rate is quite poor, so any deposit we have here wouldn't be worth the same over there. I know that things like groceries are so expensive too, in comparison.
For what it's worth, DP hasn't put any pressure on me in terms of deciding where to live. And in any case, I can't make any decisions until I've at least been to visit NZ.
What I'm asking really, is for you to share any relevant experiences you might have that could help me organise my thoughts! Especially the logistics of visiting family on the other side of the world, and maintaining a relationship. I'm sorry for the essay. I've watched so many episodes of 'Wanted Down Under!' and it would be great to hear from others first hand. Thank you
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andantecantabile · 23/03/2015 11:50
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