Help me please, I haven't slept for weeks, I think this is the most stressed I have ever been.
We've been in Oz for a couple of years now, it took a while to settle but I finally feel like we're happy. Kids in good schools, friends, daycare, big house near the beach and also an opportunity for me to study next year.
But my DM is unwell and has been for a while, no diagnosis for the last year but she's getting worse rather than better. So DH told work that he would like a transfer back to the UK and we waited. I recently went back for a visit, my first in a long time, and I couldn't shake the feeling that our quality of life would nosedive and that Oz is a better place for the DCs to grow up. When I got back DH had been offered a job in the UK. Now it's going through and I'm panicking. There's all the practical stuff, like finding the DCs a place in school (we'll be lucky if they get into the same one), a smaller house, DH will have a long commute to work that he doesn't have now, the weather, finding daycare. I will have to give up on study for a few years... but these all seem like very shallow things in comparison to me and the DCs having some precious time with DM.
We don't have passports, and to be honest I don't think I could 3 moves overseas because it's tough on a trailing spouse, and I would have to build up a life all over again. So this is the final move really.
Anyone else been in a similar situation. I am dreading the distress I could cause to DM.
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INeedToGetThisAllOut · 03/12/2014 02:20
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