This will be a bit long and whiny; please bear with me. I am sitting here in tears at the moment, so not v coherent.
Long story short, I am a long term expat moving every 2 to 3 years, and have lived in seven countries so far. Two years ago, I made the difficult decision to stay in the UK on my own as my children were older and finding it very hard to keep moving, my mother had been recently widowed and I wanted to reclaim a bit of myself and get back to work for a bit. My DH works in a foreign country about eight hours away. We were told that he would likely be given a job in the UK about this time, so it seemed sensible for me to stay put for a bit.
Anyway, he was told today that there are no jobs in the UK because the job market is so terrible. The disappointment is crushing. His boss hopes to revisit the situation in another two years time, but even then there are no guarantees.
I am shattered. The past two years have been agonisingly hard. The children don't want to leave their school here; they love it and have lots of friends, plus their granny. But at the same time, they miss him and he misses them terribly. I visit him from time to time, and it's just so sad, his bachelor existence, and always coming home to an empty house. He's missing all the milestones in their lives, and in mine. I am getting an award this month, and he can't come for the ceremony because he's already used up a lot of leave visiting the kids over Xmas.
I considered moving to his country, but given it's only for two years and my daughter is at that tough teen stage, I don't know whether I want to uproot her again. I also considered boarding school, but my kids are just not the boarding school type, plus they don't want to go! My weekends are so lonely; everyone pairs off in happy families and I am on my own. The only thing that kept me going was the idea that it was only for 2 years, and now to find out I have to do another 2.
A few years ago, he even took an unpaid sabbatical for a year and started up his own business, but it failed, sadly. In his field, there are very few jobs, and while he has been looking hard for even a lower paying job, he has not found one so far.
I am just so sad at the moment. So sad.
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FrequentFlier · 29/01/2014 16:07
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