I am new to this site but have found myself in an agonising situation and need some help Mumsnet members! My partner of 8 years has been offered a job with his company in Dubai. The posting is for 3 years. We have lived in a lovely town for 4 years, have just bought our family home six months ago, have two children 3 and 1. For the first time in my adult life I feel settled and have put down some roots. My family are an hour down the motorway so not too far and the kids see their grandparents every two weeks. I am in a quandry, because I know this is probably a once in a life time opportunity for my partner professionally, and I don't want him to miss out. The financial benefits are good. He will not lose his job if we don't go but he will want to move on. I just don't want to leave my home, friends and family - thinking about renting the house and packing up makes me feel sick. My eldest starts school in 20 months. If we go overseas for 3 years he will not get into any of the good local schools when we return. We have paid a lot of money to live in an area with good schooling - they are heavily oversubscribed. Any money we make from the posting are likely to be used in private schooling when we get back!! To add to this me and my partner are not married. He has always been against marriage - not commitment to me but more he does not think it is necessary to have a commited relationship - stems from things that happened to him in childhood. I wanted to get married years ago but respected and accepted his feelings and let the idea go. If we go to Dubai we have to get married to live there.. now he is happy to get married and had talked about this though not proposed. I am really struggling with this.. such a u-turn - and for wrong reasons? So has anyone been in this situation? How did you feel? What happened? Anyone move to Dubai recently? How did you find it? We have been offered a recce with the kids in the new year..
Any words of wisdom much appreciated!! thank you.
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Jollylittlemama · 22/12/2013 14:33
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