How often do you hear from your parents - and how often do you keep in touch?(31 Posts)
OH Skypes PILs once a week. MIL has called twice in ten years. OH also tries to Skype BIL at least twice a month, shift patterns make it awkward, BIL has called once in ten years.
My parents are both long deceased.
I speak to my mum and dad on Skype every Sunday evening. My db sets it up, as my dp's are useless with technology. My mum rings me once a week for a catch up and gossip.
Skype mil every Sunday after we've spoken to my dp's. Then get random calls off mil.
We just get random calls every two weeks or so from fil.
I'm used to it, they were the same before we moved.
Other than trying to get DH to contact her more frequently I don't think anything really needs to be done. You contact her frequently, she can see your Facebook, is she on there herself?
Without wishing to be unkind I think it really is up to DH to contact his DM, not that I think you shouldn't.
It's nice that you get on well, sounds to me like she wants the contact from DH as well as from you, and everything you put on FB
I ring my mother every week. Sometimes she rings me, but it's easier for me to ring her because I'm better about timing. Before my father died in January I rang every fortnight. I ring my siblings roughly every three weeks, again they occasionally ring me, but it's usually the other way around. Not an issue to me.
dh hasn't spoken to his father or sisters for a couple of years. I'm not even sure why to be honest, but I don't really have the sort of relationship with them to pick up the phone myself. I think it is sad, and try to encourage contact, but he is pretty apathetic about it. His mum died almost 20 years ago. I think it would probably be different if she was still around.
We keep in touch almost daily with a whatsapp, which has been brilliant - it we have a group with my siblings, parents and inlaws, and every day people are sending baby photos, updates and things. We also Skype at least once a week, but find that messaging is so much easier to manage, and makes you feel more in touch with the day to day.
We make sure we catch up in person at least once a year... The new website that calculates how many times you'll get to see your parents,
seeyourfolks.com/, put the fear in us and we booked tickets right away!
My (also technology hating) mum and I have an hours long phonecall on a Sunday evening.
Catch up in person during the summer (ie now) and at Christmas. I come home and have myself looked after!
Phone my mum every other week, my dad died 13 years ago. Have lived overseas for over 18 years so mum is used to infrequent contact as no Skype etc when we moved away.
Pils - I never phone them. Send emails update them on what the kids are doing. Think dh phones them every couple of months or so.
Emails every day, often more then one. I recieved two emails from them this morning.
See PIL every weekend, MIL will call once or twice during the week for general chit chat. They do expect us to go round and never come here but only live a few minutes away so it's not a problem, they are nice people but wouldn't have a clue about texts, email or anything tech related (they use them but not as a form of communication with nearby family). They would not understand Facebook!
I see my DM every week too, at least once and will talk to her on the phone several times a week. She lives just under an hour away. She never replies to texts or email, no idea why as she uses both a lot!
I speak to one of my sisters every day, sometimes twice. I'll see her at least once a week. My other sister I talk to probably once a week, sometimes it will go to three.
We are all very close, I'm lucky to have such a fab family!
Every day with both sets of parents. Skype so doesn't cost us anything.
I call my mum 2 - 3 times a week and we skype once a week. The ILs call about once a month but they aren't as far as my DP so they visit every 2 - 3 months (or we go over).
When my DM is feeling a bit sad about the distance I always say imagine living like this 20 years ago, there was no skype, no whats app, people didn't really use email and phone calls weekly (never mind 2 - 3 times!) would just be too expensive. She then thinks herself very lucky that we moved away in such a technology-advanced time!
used to call my mum every morning after older kids went school, she passed away 2 years ago. i miss our talks.
dad isnt as chatty, and now with dementia he doesn't initiate or finish a conversation lots of silences unless i talk nonsense to fill the gaps. so i only call him once a week.
sis is like my step mum head of house keeps us siblings together call her once a week coz shes too busy with work and kids and text her most days for sad stuff like mums recipes lol
if i could speak to family once everyday i would but no one has the time or doesnt want to make it, mum always had time for me life sucks sometimes.
mil lives with me, calls her daughter nearly everyday. but when she visits her daughter its like we are dead to her she will go a month without calling. i can see how much we matter to her.
I'm 4000 miles away and skype parents maybe 2-3 times a week. Definitely more so now since we've had DS who's nearly 2.
When I first moved out here, I found it brilliant for keeping me feel close to home and it definitely helped with homesickness! Now 5 1/2 years later, here feels like home but I still love keeping in touch with my family as we're very close.
Hmmm neither my mum nor Dh parents can use a computer or text (at least PIL have a mobile). Last summer mother went into a home, she has dementia but generally has 5 or 6 sentences worth of reasonable conversation then she changes the subject, we call her weekly and Ds speaks to her every time (not sure if he will still do that next year when he leaves for uni). TBH we never had a particularly close relationship and its more for Ds than me (apologies if that makes me seem bad I'm really not). DPIL we call once a week, but they are very old and very old fashioned phone is for giving information not chatting . As for visiting we try for twice a year, for me for various reasons its 4 times over the last 12 months but now it will probably be just next summer.
sorry meant to say none of them has ever called us in the last 7 years. I really hope that Ds will be different.
When I lived abroad, I spoke to my parents every week the first few months, but after a few years, only once a month (my dads work pays their phonebill, so it didn't cost them anything to phone)
Now we live in a different country from the in-laws, and speak to his mother once every few weeks and his dad twice a year (which was also the same when living in the same country :P not much contact there.)
We Skype every week and when ever we want or need!
I could happily have my mum and her hubby live here.. As for the rest .. Yes distance is a good thing!
Facebook is great and well used for photos and updates. Often a good way of getting news out en mass!
Really living overseas with modern technology staying in touch is easy.. Well with those you choose to!
I have noticed a theme however .. Amongst most of my expat friends.... Phones.. The lines often run one way... They don't seem to come out of the uk?? At least for a while! And similarly... Planes only fly one way too! ..... Just sayin
MIL phones us every day when she is back in her home country.
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