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frikonastick Mon 06-May-13 06:42:08

Come oooonnnnnn MNHQ, where's our medal grin

Frikonastick Tue 15-Oct-13 01:19:15

Hasn't been maintained, and roof has rusted through in places, wet readings in the hundreds on three sides of the house :-(

All rectifyable, but of course, not for the current agreed price, but also, of course, it's waaaaaaay more work than we wanted to sign up for, with a much longer timeframe so we would be renting as well as paying a mortgage and all the building costs etc etc. I just don't think we can afford it

But what the actual fuck am I going to do. Mil arrives in two weeks. There is no way we can live in the current house for any length of time, it would be disastrous.

Seriously, I am feakng out. I feel like up until now I have been maintaining an even keel but now im like, fuck this! <throws all toys out cot>

Briefly spoke to DH, he seems calmer about it than I am. So now I feel like a really fucking awful shit wife. I'm supposed to be supporting him not freaking out.

Fuck. Fuckfuckfuck.

WhatSheSaid Tue 15-Oct-13 01:10:04

Just saw your earlier post that house was built 1964, so not leaky era. Does it just need stuff doing to it?

WhatSheSaid Tue 15-Oct-13 01:01:21

Bad as in leaky, frik? Just had a quick look at it, priced under CV - in Auckland, that in itself would ring alarm bells but may not be the same in Tga.

Presumably the sale is conditional on the results of the building report, so you don't have to proceed if you don't want to?

vvviola Tue 15-Oct-13 00:42:23

Oh no frik!!

How bad?

Do you want to/can you back out of the sale?

Just what didn't need sad

Frikonastick Mon 14-Oct-13 23:53:59

Building report came back, it's bad


What the fuck are we going to do?

I just want to cry and run away. Not neccessarily in that order.

WhatSheSaid Mon 14-Oct-13 19:45:32

Hope the will etc can get sorted frik and that things aren't too stressful for your dh.

Great news about the scan AB.

Frikonastick Mon 14-Oct-13 19:30:08

Yay AB :-)

DH drives to Auckland tonight, flies in the early am tomorrow. Going for two weeks.

DD started at school yesterday, and loved it! No crying, clinging or dramatics. so I am super relieved and happy about that. Feels like one less thing to worry about!

Woke up this morning to very wet and blustery weather and realised I don't have the right uniform pants for DD though, so am sending her in with shorts over leggings and hoping the school doesn't notice! I have no idea how strict or not they are. Am hoping it will be in line with the rest of kiwi laidbackedness grin

Expecting building report back today, here's hoping its all good........

Thanks penguin, in some ways I'm actually looking forward to DH going because its so so stressful trying to sort things out remotely and we are both just shattered and want things to be finished and done with. MIL can't remember where thier will is, or which lawyer it was done with, so that is causing major problems. Only alternative now is to put notices in the newspaper asking law firms if anyone did the work........ As fil has run his own buiness for the last 25 years, and made mil a direcotr, its somewhat imperative in order to close everything down! It looks like MIL is definately coming back with DH, but as she won't let us book the ticket, who the hell can tell!! I tried to explain that if she doesn't let me do it, like, now, then she won't neccessarily be on the same flight as DH, let alone get an adjoining seat........

Poor poor DH though, he is being so wonderful and so brave and so incredibly loving and supportive to both his mom and his sister, nothing is ever too much trouble and he is shouldering so much, not to mention work and his own family. I am really worried about his own mental and physical health. Which is the bit about him going on his own to sort things out that is giving me sleepless nights. I feel that it's terribly wrong that I won't be there to support him sad

meerkate Mon 14-Oct-13 14:30:42

great news AB! love to all - must dash to get kids from school - back soon smile

BBQWidow Mon 14-Oct-13 09:07:17

That's wonderful news! So glad to see that things look positive so far, AB. Here's hoping that the news stays on the up.

Back to the daily grind today. I had last week off, and it was so relaxing. Started the day with a company wide meeting that was very pressured...not the start I'd hoped for, but it is what it is.

justaboutatpeace Mon 14-Oct-13 08:38:22

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AngryBeaver Mon 14-Oct-13 08:32:55

Thanks guys.
Very stressful day!
On the surface things seem ok smile
Still waiting for maternal screening to come back (few days) and then will have a clearer pic.
But, there was a nasal bone, and the nuchal fluid was 1.5 mm.

Soooo, grin

giantpenguinmonster Mon 14-Oct-13 06:48:56

Thinking of you AB.

And you frik.

justaboutatpeace Mon 14-Oct-13 00:53:00

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WhatSheSaid Sun 13-Oct-13 23:34:49

AB - fingers, toes and everything crossed for your scan today.

vvviola Sun 13-Oct-13 23:31:23

AB - it's a scan day today, isn't it? Sending you lots of relaxing vibes & good wishes xxx

justaboutatpeace Sat 12-Oct-13 08:31:28

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vvviola Sat 12-Oct-13 08:17:38

Oh, justa - just thought - we were at the one in Silverdale (new shopping area up there is lovely & parking so much simpler) but guessing it's probably in all of them. Wintry stuff mainly, but that suited us well for track suits etc (and there were flip flops for $3 too - we didn't get them as my DC are as clumsy as I am and wearing flip flops is just asking for trouble!)

PS: anyone else afraid their roof might blow off this evening shockshock

justaboutatpeace Sat 12-Oct-13 08:11:35

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vvviola Sat 12-Oct-13 07:32:30

DD came home from a sleepover at DH's lovely aunt's house this evening... with a very sore & swollen foot from a fall on a trampoline yesterday. Aunt didn't call as apart from hopping about, DD seemed in good form hmm

Was too late to do much about it this evening, but if it's still as sore & swollen in the morning I think we'll be heading to the out of hours clinic sad

DD2's suspicious spot disappeared without any pox, so who knows what's going on there.

I want my Mum... blushsad

(But on the plus side - massive sale in Warehouse today, restocked DD1's wardrobe as she's shot up again, with nothing over $5)

justaboutatpeace Sat 12-Oct-13 05:05:03

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BBQWidow Sat 12-Oct-13 04:43:48

Sorry to hear about your FIL, Frik. Buying the house must feel very bitter sweet.

We had a mini break down in Christchurch for 5 nights. Well 3 nights in Hanmer Springs, and the other 2 in Christchurch. I really thought it would look a bit less like a bomb site in the centre of it after 2.5 years. It must be so frustrating for them living in the middle of it.

vvviola Thu 10-Oct-13 22:52:23

Goodness Frik! Roller coaster is right! Congratulations on the house. And my condolences about FIL.

AngryBeaver Thu 10-Oct-13 22:37:34

Congratulations frick smile xx

Frikonastick Thu 10-Oct-13 22:19:29

Penguin, probably 2 weeks again.

It's been a roller coaster day.

We put in an offer on the house, vendor counter offered, we counter offered, and they have just accepted. So, we have bought a house.

giantpenguinmonster Tue 08-Oct-13 21:46:37

I'm so sorry Frik.

It sounds like there will be a lot of organising to do. How long do you think DH will be away?

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