Anybody moving abroad soon and fancy a hand holding thread?(88 Posts)
DH starts a job in Switzerland on 1st may. So we intend to move over there (currently in uk) around the end of april.
I'm looking forward to it but also v daunted. Anybody else on the move soon?
Oh my goodness, four weeks of goodbyes! We spent two weeks saying our goodbyes, it almost finished me off!
We have been in Perth almost six months and still love it, although I cant wait for the hot weather to come back, Aussie houses are freezing in winter!
Four weeks of goodbyes, Flower? That sounds emotionally exhausting!
We moved on Saturday. DS is being quite hard work - teething and separation anxiety. It must be odd for him not just being in a new country but suddenly having daddy back after four months with just a few weekends and a couple of week-long visits.
So after a fortnight with Daddy around (last week in London, first in Germany), on Monday he's back to work and DS starts nursery settling in.
I'm dreading having to look after him alone next week, even though I've been fine on my own for the last four months!
hi all. we now have 4 weeks before the big move to Beijing. DH has been there for 3 weeks and he is coming back home so we can fly out together. can't wait to see him, we have never been apart for so long. any last minute advice before we go? I seem to be spending all my time saying goodbye to people. it's quite exhausting!
Hi Barbie, glad to hear the move has gone well.
Mine is looming closer and closer...
I'm a week into our South Korea move and so far so good....it's not Dubai but ill cope
Dubai ladies, having lived there for four years I'm happy to help with any questions
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I started this thread but have been useless at updating.
We moved over about five weeks ago and it's going ok so far. I've been incredibly busy, which I think it a good thing.
Only a few moments of intense home sickness so far!!
hey guerilla, just wondering how things are going? my dh flies out in just over 3 weeks so v busy here doing jobs and getting organised before he goes then I am on my own with kids until we fly out in sep. all systems go! BTW thanks for the tips.
Hi everyone, I've finally got internet so can join in this thread again!
We've been in Dubai for a month now and so far I'd say it's going well. DS1 has settled brilliantly into his new school and made lovely friends and both boys are so happy at being able to go swimming everyday!
I have met a few people, slight difficulty in that it seems 99% of kids over 2 are in nursery so any toddler groups aren't that suitable for boisterous 3 year old DS2! He starts pre-school in September though so hoping to be able to meet more people through there or being able to go to coffee mornings etc.
Any Dubai mums in this thread fancy meeting up?? Just pm me if you want some company with a fellow newbie!!
Hi flower. I'm feeling a bit more settled now, thanks for asking. The ogre seems to have gone off to pester someone else so work is back to being good . I've also met some RL people via a stitch and bitch group and chatted to some others via Beijingmamas, which is a Yahoo group you might want to join as it's quite handy for background info.
Re things to stock up on top of my list at the moment is suncream as they don't seem to do big bottles here, if you're here next summer then it might be good to have some in preparation. I had a marmite crisis that is now solved and also tea (in China, who knew!) is quite expensive in the shops I've been to.
Any kind of cosmetic you might use is bound to be more expensive here so I'd really recommend stockpiling and if you have a big bust (not casting aspersions ) you might want to be stocked up on bras as anything 'substantial' is in short supply. Likewise shoes if, like me, you have bigger feet as the biggest you can usually get here is a 39 without a hunt.
Re kids I don't know how big your DC are but if you have a baby you'll already know about the milk formula issues here- a container is an eye-watering 35-40 quid here- thank god DD is now on cow's milk!
Oh and I'd gorge of cheese to the point of being sick of it before you come as it costs more here (although there is an abundance of pizza, so mozzarella is okay!).
Re books etc you can't buy kindles here but you can download books. Also Amazon UK apparently deliver for a very reasonable price but I haven't tried it yet.
Will see if I can think of anything else, but to be honest the domestic side is fine... just missing my family/pals and a bit pissed off with the air here (it was AQI 320 this morning, which is v, v high... so air purifiers will be a must!)
Guerrillacrochet, how's it going? We now have school places for September and medicals booked. Removal people come next week so all starting to feel a bit more real. Is there anything I should be stocking up on that you can't get there? Hope you've met a few people now?
moving to Brunei in August with DH and ds 15 months old - scary but very exciting, have so much to think about don't know where to start!
I posted upthread. We are in the process of planning a move, but I accidentally got shortlisted for a job which we would stay for - IF I get it. So feeling all a bit on hold at the moment.
somuchtosortout Malawi! I love Malawi. Whereabouts are you going? We are thinking about a move to South Africa & the ability to travel around the region is a big pull for us. Are your DC excited about the move?
Guerrillacrochet good luck settling in, it's always hard at first. I know it's a challenge but you have to seize every opportunity to make friends with both hands - most other expats have been in your situation & will be open & friendly. I hope you feel more settled soon.
duh accidentally posted there!
Anyway I was saying I haven't lived abroad before so maybe that's why I'm finding it hard to make new friends- lots of the women I've spoken to have been on multiple postings and seem used to the upheaval and more adaptable than me. Or maybe it is the usual front that people put on until they get to know you and the barriers come down. We're going to a newcomers network meeting next week so maybe that will help.
Good luck with all the preparation! If you have any questions about the stuff you need feel free to ask or PM me.. I know I sounded a bit needy and neurotic in my last email but I am normally quite sane
Thanks flowerpowergirl for the words of support :-). I feel a bit better today, less hassle from the big boss so far this week. I think because I'm here for work it is the big support network for me, and when it is bad at work I feel really lost at sea! I think I need to get my UK office involved a bit in terms of support as I haven't had any HR stuff here, haven't had language training etc etc. I think I needed to get to that point of feeling low to pull my socks up and work out a plan for coping. Your idea of another thread is a good one, thanks I'll put something out there. I haven't lived abroad before so
I'm in Central Park, which is in the CBD.
Guerillacrochet - poor you that sounds pretty awful. where are you living? we come out in September and I def see my job as making friends for us all but how to do it? why not post a new thread on living oversees as I know there are other MN'ers in Beijing. maybe they can give you some tips. have you tried any of the expat websites for clubs/meeting up opportunities? good luck, I hope it all improves for you.
We have been in Perth two and a half months now, moving into a long term rental next week, loving it so far, especially my son who hated school in Ireland but loves it here.
Just discovered this thread! DH is moving to Dubai in June and Dd and I will be following at the end of August! Excited but petrified!
Germany for 2 years. It was fab. Went over intending to work for a week and ended up being there for a good while.
telling the children about the move tomorrow morning. yikes! after that I guess word will soon get out. wish me luck!
We are off to Malawi! Sort of looking forward to it but won't be able to settle happily until I see children settled happily. DD1 will be going in to Year 2 and loves school at the moment, so I am holding my breath and hope it will be an easy transition for her...
Would be great to see how others are settling in to their various postings as the months unfold!
Dh got employment pass through today so nothing can stop us going now. Posted on facebook which has definitely made it seem more real. Now really got to get my skates on to do everything. Downloaded a countdown app onto ipad. 74 days until we go
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