Hi there. I wondered if anyone could give me some insight on a really tough decision we have to make.
I'm currently living in Austria with my husband (who is Austrian) as he got a good permanent job out here about a year ago. Our DS is 10 months, and the timing co-incided perfectly with my maternity leave from my very good job in the UK. We decided to come out here and 'try it out' while I took 12 months mat leave - we've had a good time and realise this is a great place for a family.
But now we have to decide whether to stay out here or go back to the UK. My parents are both 70, my dad's in really poor health and I have a really close relationship with them, and really want to help them in their old age. My job in the UK is very well paid, and secure. But my DH hasn't been able to find work back in the UK, so if I go back I will be on my own and he will be home at weekends - and this for an undefined period of time until either he finds work, or I realise it ain't going to work and quit and come back to Austria.
The alternative is to stay here. I have been searching for work out here most of my mat leave, and have the possibility of a 6month consultancy contract that may or may not lead to something more long term. I've always been very career minded, and the thought of being out of work in a few months scares the hell out of me. That and the thought of cutting all my ties with England, and basically abandonning my parents.
I am totally in a panic about this impossible choice, and am not sure what to do - I feel like I have to choose my husband or my family and career. I am reliving every possible scenario and getting nowhere. Thanks for any advice....
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zippy19 · 02/07/2012 08:59
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