My DM is in the final few weeks of her life. She has extensive advanced stomach cancer. It was only diagnosed as cancer just under 3 weeks ago. Up until then she had felt tired for a short spell, had a urine infection, discomfort in her side and low iron. She was sent to the hospital by her GP and stayed in from 21 July until she was discharged only on Saturday evening,
The situation with C19 we were unable to visit her in hospital and even her own GP is waiting for communication on the exact details of her diagnosis. She has been discharged with palliative care only. There is no hospice provision where are so me and my sister are trying to care for her.
Her decline has been brutally swift. She can no longer do anything at all. Tonight she took another turn for the worse and we had to get out of hours district nurses to come and give her a catheter.
I'm now sitting with her on my own. She keeps crying that we will make a mistake and think she's dead when she's not. She keeps waking up shouting that she's not dead. So far tonight she's not slept peacefully for any length of time. She's on oral morphine. Up until tonight she's been peaceful.
I feel so alone and frankly traumatised. She terrified and keeps letting me know it. I haven't slept or eaten for the last 24 hours. I nearly dropped her trying to help her in the toilet earlier (which is now she now has a catheter). I'm very on edge.
I'm not sure what I want from this thread but I guess just wanted a bit of company. I honestly feel this is so horrific.
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Milicentbystander72 · 12/08/2020 01:23
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