My lovely MIL, the cherished Nanna of my two sons, 7 and 3, has an inoperable brain tumour which we found out about just before Christmas.
Things have looked very bad at points and she has been in hospital for three weeks. She has now had a course of radiotherapy (probably her only one, it’s palliative care only).
My DH has been visiting a lot and helping his dad out as he’s struggling too. He has family to help, which is good.
She is likely to be coming home soon, but will be in a hospital bed downstairs. She will want to see the grandchildren as she dotes on them.
I’m not worried about my 3 year old as he won’t understand anyway, it’s my sensitive, 7 year old that I’m worried about.
He’s been asking what’s wrong with her and so far we’ve just stuck to ‘she’s very poorly at the moment, but we’re not sure yet’. Not really a lie, as even her doctor doesn’t have much of a clue about her prognosis as they can’t even do a biopsy.
What do we tell him before we go and visit? After we’ve seen her? Do we tell him she’s got cancer? That she’s not going to get better?
He’s read Gangsta Granny, so is aware of what cancer is and the seriousness of it. He’s even asked us if that’s what nanna’s got. We said we’re not sure.
Sorry for the long explanation.
I’d really like to hear some wise words of advice.
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Life-limiting illness
How to tell my 7 year old
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Nuffaluff · 23/02/2018 18:32
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