I'm struggling to know how to phrase my question.
My dm died shortly after being diagnosed with secondary metastasis . We were told there would be a slight chance of determining the type of primary tumour from a biopsy of one of these but dm decided that the risks involved, as well as the negative affect on the quality of her remaining life not to go ahead with this. She spent her last few hours at the local Hospice, it felt very rushed after she died with answer phone messages left asking when we we having the body moved ( she died at 6 am, messages by midday). I appreciate the pressures on the Hospice for bed space but I'd been told there was no rush...so the undertaker was engaged and her body was removed.
Shortly before her diagnosis my dh also received a cancer diagnosis and it took nearly two years to receive an acknowledgement that some basic information about his treatment had been accidentally omitted from what we had been told about his surgery. This has caused a good deal of distress for him, and also my self.
So, my question, should dm's body have been taken for tests to try and determine the type of primary cancer?
Yes, I have pursued this via the consultant at the hospital where dm was diagnosed and was sent a letter suggesting I look up CUP on line. Given how persistent we needed to be to get our questions answered after dh's illness I feel I may have been fobbed off.
I have lived with grief almost all my life, and am stricken by it most days. This, without a doubt contributes to uncertainty that I may not be behaving rationally .
Thank you for reading this, putting it in writing has lifted a weight.
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Her0utdoors · 03/06/2017 15:44
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