My DH was diagnosed with cancer 3 years ago. He took the less conventional treatment route and decided to have chemotherapy and radio rather than surgery. All been good, although obviously we have had the the usual stresses of waiting between checks, call backs and so on... He is very close and never discusses his feelings etc, but told me recently that he has had some worrying symptoms that he may have cancer in another part of his body. I am really worried about this and have battled with him to see his GP, and contacted his consultants secretary to chase up his 6 month check up. Won't bore you with the ins and outs of this, but I have sorted it out.
I asked him if he wanted dinner tonight, and he said no. Then he said he would half of what I have! No way am I going to share my dinner. Made dinner, then he played hell with me and said it was far too much and couldn't possibly eat it all (he's usually a greedy bugger). I put half on another plate, he went to get the salad container out of the bin and filled that! He ate his dinner, then went back to the kitchen came back with the other half that he couldn't possibly eat!
I understand that he stressed, and he did say today that he thought he had cancer again, and I am also worried about that. He has a swelling on his neck, and his GP said it was enlarged lymph nodes from infection. I feel that he is being fobbed off by GP... My DH went back back and forth to that GP for 6 months before being referred with first cancer.
I am a member of a forum for patients with DHs original cancer, and experts on there say leave it for a couple of weeks, it could be a bug, but DH has been feeling unwell for more than a month. He never complains normally which rings alarm bells.
Apologies for rambling post, but I am feeling really stressed and no idea how to deal with this. To sum it up, how I deal with DHs angry behaviour, and how do I make sure he is getting the medical attention he needs?
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Life-limiting illness
Just a little moan, and maybe a hand hold please...
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HeirOfNothingInParticular · 28/05/2017 18:43
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