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MY WIFE HAS TERMINAL CANCER

(289 Posts)
Surreytimes Sun 16-Apr-17 17:48:20

I cannot in way believe I am writing this.Only 2 weeks ago, she had a headache and then a day later went into a massive seizure and they resuscitated her on the bed. Rushed to hospital at 3am and my 7 old son and I followed the ambulance. 2 hours later, after a CAT and MRI they conformed the worst possible a huge tumour in the brain across the brain stem. We have now been told there is little they can do and its in her neck and spine too!! How on earth does one cope??? My beautiful boy who was a precious IVF baby adores his mummy as I do!!! I am in a dream at the moment! I want to wake up!

originalbiglymavis Sun 16-Apr-17 17:53:23

What exactly is the prognosis? Have they suggested any treatments? Is there anyone in RL who can be with you and be your support at the hospital?

Surreytimes Sun 16-Apr-17 18:24:37

My mum is up helping as much as she can. Its a high grade rapid malignancy. Inoperable because of its location across the brain stem and the fact that its in the neck and spine. I am just totally in shock and didn't even know about mumsnet until a friend mentioned it. Sorry, I am a chap called David. x

flapjackfairy Sun 16-Apr-17 18:29:03

So so sorry david. Just wanted to send you and your son love and best wishes xxx

HelgaHufflepuff76 Sun 16-Apr-17 18:35:54

Oh David, I'm so, so sorry.
I wish I could help, or say something useful, but there's nothing is there?

Sending you and your family my love. flowers

PastysPrincess Sun 16-Apr-17 18:39:31

I'm so sorry for you. There really isn't much I can say to make any difference but just wanted to say something flowers

I've lost a family member in similar circumstances. Perhaps the thing to concentrate on is making the most of the time left. flowers

bobs123 Sun 16-Apr-17 18:39:50

So sorry David. What a shock for you

mumofthemonsters808 Sun 16-Apr-17 18:44:59

I have no words David, but I'm thinking of you and your family.

Surreytimes Sun 16-Apr-17 18:45:07

One day all was good, living in Surrey, work and a lovely family, the next, its totally ...all i can say is cherish your family and loved ones. Never ever take them for granted x

user1466690252 Sun 16-Apr-17 18:47:22

Your post has put a lump in my throat. I'm so sorry David. It's clear how much you love her.

changename7 Sun 16-Apr-17 18:52:08

Xxxx

HarryBlackberry Sun 16-Apr-17 18:52:57

Xxxxx

PrettyLittleBrownEyedMe Sun 16-Apr-17 18:53:29

I'm so sorry for what you're going through. flowers for you and your family. Accept all help anyone offers you and try to make happy memories if you can over the coming weeks - they will help in the long run.

Thinking of you.

FancyFingers Sun 16-Apr-17 18:53:49

How fucking awful.

Sending you all much love and strength.

notanurse2017 Sun 16-Apr-17 18:54:14

I am so sorry.

LettuceMash Sun 16-Apr-17 18:56:48

flowers

MrsMozart Sun 16-Apr-17 19:00:19

I am so very sorry.

Surreytimes Sun 16-Apr-17 19:00:40

Love her? Oh in context...I adore her. I would die for her! I met her at college when I was16. She is now 40. Our son is 7. She wont see him make 8.This morning, she realised her vision was rapidly deteriorating! My baby is going blind! This really does happen! ENJOY YOUR LIVES! XXX PLEASE. XXX

josben Sun 16-Apr-17 19:03:17

I am so sorry to hear that you've had such awful news - thinking of you and your family 💐

Surreytimes Sun 16-Apr-17 19:06:26

Thank you so much for all your thoughts. x I am not used to writing threads etc and only today joined this as a friend said. Bless you and thank you all. xxx

user1466690252 Sun 16-Apr-17 19:08:14

Your very much in my thoughts. I'm so sorry

SingaSong12 Sun 16-Apr-17 19:08:21

No advice, just I'm thinking about you. flowers

JennyOnAPlate Sun 16-Apr-17 19:09:38

I'm so sorry David. Nothing I can write can possibly make you feel any better. It's fucking awful.

Mumsnet is a great source of support for many; please do keep posting. There will be others here who have been in your situation flowers

fruitbats Sun 16-Apr-17 19:15:02

How absolutely awful for you all. Wish there was something we could say to help thanks

Surreytimes Sun 16-Apr-17 19:16:20

I need to keep strong for my son and obviously my gorgeous wife. My life is suddenly upside down. Its now about enjoying every single hour and day. I am going to buy a memory box and we will put things in it tomorrow. I am flooded in tears writing this. x

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