My DM has been sick for nearly two months and on Friday we learned that it was likely ovarian cancer that has spread all over (including lymph nodes and lungs). She is only 57 and was previously fit and healthy. Her breathing became poor and she wasn't eating well so they admitted her yesterday after an outpatients appointment. So far she's recovered well and is like her old self.
We know that the cancer has spread to the point where she will not get better, but I'm getting the impression from doctors and nurses they won't even try treatment? They have not yet even referred her to an oncologist, and they seem to be moving really slowly. This is obviously terrifying because surely the sooner they begin treatment the more they can slow it down and the more time we have.
I am also struggling to deal with this - I can't get any RL support until my mum has told her nearests, so I am battling my thoughts and fears constantly. I also live in a city a few hours from my Mum, although I am with her now, I will return tomorrow for a few days then go back. I can't afford to not work in my home town but I'm scared that when I return to work I won't have the flexibility of time off to assist my mum and come home when I need to.
I'm scared to think about the little time we have left, especially if they do not treat her? Surely they must offer something to put it at bay - I know it's very late but they must try? She is so young and has recovered well over the past few days! Does anyone have any methods to keep my anxieties down and deal with the news both practically and emotionally? I did not expect to be dealing with this before I reached thirty or forty even.
Thanks MN.
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Life-limiting illness
Terrified and alone, please please hand hold?
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Fauchelevent · 21/01/2016 00:04
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