I posted in General Health too but perhaps this is a more appropriate place. My mother has just been told her neurological condition (4 months now) is most likely to be MND. Until today all i'd heard about MND was the ice bucket challenge and Stephen Hawkins. She has developed depression on top of the physical symptoms. I live 600 miles away. MND has no hope or cure and I'm finding it all quite a shock. My two brothers live in different continents, so I'm the closest relative to her. It looks like the 'normal' prognosis is 2 years but she is already bed bound. I am completely freaked out. Any advice over how to support her and my step father would be much appreciated. I have v young 3 DC (one of which is pre school). I have no idea how I'm going to get through this.
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Life-limiting illness
hand holding until someone more experienced comes along. Being so far away and with such small children I don't know how much practical support you can offer tbh. You could maybe use skype so your mum gets to see her DGC from her bed and you chat to her, even if it's just about your day, or pay for a cleaner to free up your step father's time or do a weekly online shop for them, just lift some of the domestic burden.
Expect this to be a shock for you as well 
Thank you all, I am grateful to you. I spoke to mum today and it sounds as though she has given up the will to live, not eating, not really moving about her voice thick with emotion and slurry. My step father thinks it is mainly psychological, the depression has got a real grip of her and she cannot see how she can have any quality of life with MND. I am going to visit on Thursday (without the kids, she doesn't want to see them, she feels it will be too exhausting and I don't blame her! They exhaust me). sedona not sure I am ready for any graphic details yet but I will be in touch in the weeks and months to come. Now I am just digesting the news that she has a terminal illness. 
to you and I hope you are coping ok. I will try calling the MNDA tomorrow and see if they will chat to me, even though I am in Scotland.
My DGM had MND but it was the bulbar palsy type so had a very quick and significant affect on her swallowing/breathing and vocal cords. Have you spoken to her GP about having a care plan in place? I found I went into practical mode as a way of dealing with it, but with the benefit of hindsight that wasn't my best plan so make sure you look after yourself too. There's nothing wrong with having a cry about this because it is utterly shit.
If you want to know anything about the things I had to organise then PM me or ask her, same if you just want to offload
Really sorry to hear this
We found the mnd society to be helpful. The hospice care was the best (was not end of life care but a rest for carers) as they understood how to make my grandad comfy. He was about a year from diagnosis.
OP, having a parent who is so very ill, and far away, is really tough. Be kind to yourself and accept any and all help and support.
My cousin in his early 50's has MND and was diagnosed around 2008/09. He has found the MNDA invaluable. He is one of the lucky ones - the disease is moving slowly enough that he still has quite a lot of quality of life. He has trouble dressing himself now (buttons / zips) but luckily his DP is amazing and cares for him very well. He can still mostly feed himself but has to be careful with what he eats (swallowing).
I am assuming he is younger than your DMum but I just wanted to say that even though it is a terrible life-limiting illness sometimes there can be hope for some semblance of quality of life.
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