My Mum has throat cancer, just above her vocal cords, about 2 inches long. She is 74, an alcoholic and heavy smoker. She has, in the past , refused all medicine, even paracetamol, often claiming allergies. My assumption is that she only wants alcohol and any treatment might interfere with that.
She has been offered 2 options. High dose radiation (recommended) or low dose from longer (less effective). Her alcoholism means surgery is not possible.
She will either refuse treatment, or pretend to go along with it but find excuses not to attend.
What next? Sorry to be blunt but can we make her? I don't want to but others might. How will she die? Starvation? Will she be able to breathe? How do they treat alcoholics, given that withdrawal is not really going to happen without help and she will NOT be away from her booze.
Can someone tell me the worst that will happen? Do we have to watch her commit suicide by cancer? How much support will she get?
I love her and want her to be well but the whole process of dealing with this is making me exhausted. None of her children live near her and she refuses to move. One sister refuses tospeak to her. I am dutiful on the phone but find visiting very difficult as her alcoholism makes her very difficult.
Advice? Support?
Thanks. This is so bloody hard.
(Am away for 2 days so might not get back to this but really hope for some help).
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Life-limiting illness
Mum likely to refuse treatment. What next?
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Roseformeplease · 13/07/2015 22:17
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