My DF was diagnosed with bladder cancer last year. He's had chemo, but it hasn't worked. An operation is out of the question. Radiotherapy is being tried, but palliatively for relief, not as a 'cure'.
He's been told he has a year. I am aware it could be more or it could be a lot less depending on how the radiotherapy goes.
He's trying to get his affairs in order and to do a few practical things for my DMum's sake.
My DSis asked whether I'd told my DDs and it got me thinking. When do you face that conversation?
My girls are 11 and 15. DF has lost a lot of weight when he first became poorly (his tumour blocked his bladder and we nearly lost him to kidney failure last Christmas) but he's not gaunt. He's lost most of his hair, but as he's an older man (nearly 70) they don't appear to notice.
My gut feeling is that I don't tell them before I need to. I know how horrible the fear of losing him is and don't want to give them that fear too early.
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WhenMarnieWasThere · 13/06/2015 16:52
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