My much loved 85 year old uncle is in the final stages of prostate cancer, and desperate to stay at home with his cats
He's a 4 hour journey from me, but on top of that is hugely private and very eccentric and won't accept help, or that he is as out of control now as he really is (I suspect he's becoming paralysed by tumours on his spine, as he's been found on the floor a few times by the daily 'carer'). Which makes everything far more complicated, of course. He's also a doctor, which means he's very aware and hopeless at being a patient!
I've spoken to hospice, who have asked the district nurses to go and see him today as his level of care needs to increase, whether he admits it or not. He has the funds to pay for private nursing, if only he agrees.
Hopefully his care will improve over the next few days. I'm trying to walk the line between respect for his privacy/autonomy and responsibility for his care and basic human needs - and am probably messing it up all the time, but not for want of trying.
I'm not sure why I'm posting, though it always helps me to feel less alone with big things when I do....I suppose if anyone can tell me honestly what my uncle is likely to go through between now and death, and how to prepare myself and the support systems around him, that would be hugely helpful??
Or perhaps I just have to muddle through and simply need paws to hold
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Life-limiting illness
Supporting someone with very, very advanced prostate cancer
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Elibean · 19/05/2014 10:49
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