Inter-racial lesbian couple - same donor sperm or different?

[AlAmelia]

Hi - my partner and I want to expand our family hopefully with 2 children one from each of our eggs. We would love for our donor sperm to represent our racial mix, and would prefer the same donor for our attempts - but mixed race donor sperm across the many banks we have researched are very limited.
So we are considering using different donors, of Asian heritage for my egg, and Caucasian donor for my partner's egg. I wonder though how this is for the kids to have no genetic link? I strongly believe that it is down to us to create the sense of connection and it's not about genetics but I wonder how the kids would feel and would their preference would be given that we have to make a choice? One of my sisters feels very strongly that we should use the same donor for both children, but most other people I ask say that doesn't matter.

I have been trying to find someone in a similar situation but no luck yet. Any advice or thoughts very welcome!

[Sunnydays123456]

Oh gosh I really have no advice other than my gut feeling is use same donor for both your babies.

That’s as a mum of 3 I speak -the ‘blood’bond to me is special and unique so I would choose it if I possibly could ..

Good luck !

[yestim]

I'd also go for the same sperm donor. Do you get to see pics of the potential donors? Could you pick a Caucasian man with dark features who tans or a paler Asian man if you can't get a mixed race donor?

[SoberCurious]

Pick an asian donor.

[AlAmelia]

@yestim

I'd also go for the same sperm donor. Do you get to see pics of the potential donors? Could you pick a Caucasian man with dark features who tans or a paler Asian man if you can't get a mixed race donor?

Some don't show their adult pics but we are choosing ones that do to help. My partner would prefer to have some Asian heritage, but we'd be open what you suggest but there are really only 3 across the banks we've looked at that have the mix and we aren't happy with those 3. We have found individual separate donors which we feel really happy to go ahead with, so it's whether we go ahead with the same donor we don't feel totally happy with or two separate ones that we do! Tricky!