I have a 3 month old baby with my wife - a much wanted baby who was conceived after several IVF attempts. Unfortunately my wife (the non-birth mother) is suffering from postnatal depression and is desperate to meet other non-birth mothers who might understand some of the things she is going through. I think she feels very isolated as we know very few lesbian couples with children. She tells me that I cannot possibly understand how she is feeling as I am the birth mother.
I have gone through an exceptionally difficult few months with a recent and very painful close bereavement. I am the baby’s primary caregiver and am emotionally exhausted. I simply don’t have any spare capacity to devote to my wife’s mental health as I am trying to keep my own head above water.
Despite all this, I am so incredibly happy to finally have a baby and am loving the experience of being a mum. I am finding my wife’s depression really difficult to deal with and I want to help her find some extra support (she has started counselling already).
Does anyone know of any meet-ups or resources, groups, forums, basically anything at all for non-birth mothers? I’m desperate as she insists that only other non-birth mothers could possibly understand what she is going through.
I’d be so grateful if anyone can suggest anything - we are in the London area but we’d be prepared to travel if it meant getting the support that she needs. Online resources would also be appreciated, if anyone can recommend any?
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Babybathwater · 26/02/2019 23:00
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