Hello - I'm new to the site so apologies for any mistakes :-) My partner and I have been together for four years and are planning our wedding for next summer. We'd like to start trying for a family soon after, with the plan being for my partner to 'go first' and have our first child, and me to follow the following year. Having always been in straight relationships in the past, I had never really planned to be the 'breadwinner' in a couple, and had somewhat assumed that when it came to having children, I'd be the same as my friends in the same position and stay at home for a few years, living off my husband's salary...but things didn't work out like that! I earn 60% of our joint income, but only get 10 weeks' full maternity pay from my company, while my partner earns less, but has a better maternity pay policy at her job. We are currently looking at planning out how things might work in terms of maternity and parental leave, what our incomes would be over the next few years, who would take care of the childcare etc. Does anyone have any tips? How does income tax affect what the government maternity calculator provides? We are planning to move out of London to Surrey to our 'forever home' in a better area for raising kids, but the mortgage payments will be higher...How do people survive on only one income?! Sorry for the long message - any ideas or personal experiences would be great. It certainly shines a light on the continued need for equal pay - when I look at how my male friends' or my friends' husbands' salaries have got to in the same space as the girls..!
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