Hi everyone
I hope this is the right place to post.
I was wondering if anyone can give me some advice.
I have a cousin who has confided in me that he is very depressed. He says he thinks he is asexual and that he has been turned off of 'love' because his mother is a narcissist. He is quite young, only 23.
He seemed to be very obsessed with a girl his age and they then had a fight, I don't know the details but I got the impression that she wanted to have sex, and he did not want to. He then lost all of his friends who all happened to be connected to that girl. Now he is isolated.
I really want my cousin to get better, but after he started taking medication, he became much worse. Last time I spoke to him, he looked like he was struggling to focus, unkempt and somewhat distraught, and it was really disturbing.
I have always thought my cuz was actually gay but that he is very uncomfortable about really accepting it, given his traditional, ethnic upbringing. I may be way out of line, but I suspect his 'asexuality' is a construction to help him deal with being gay. I have told him I fully support his sexual preferences whatever they may be and his parents have told him that too.
I may be wrong, maybe he is truly asexual, but whatever it is, I just want him to get better.
Unfortunately he is VERY dependant on my aunty and uncle, he has never had a job, doesn't know how to drive.. and they have sheltered him his whole life, giving him an allowance etc.. They love him, but it looks to me like they enjoy having their 'baby' with them at home. They know he is depressed and are trying to help him with all their heart, but I fear he is weak and will be stuck in their home forever.
Any tips on how I can help?
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Concerned about depressed friend who says he is asexual
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chocolatecake2015 · 02/07/2015 07:10
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