what should our baby to be call us??

[jayjayp]

mummy 1 & mummy 2 ?? or mam & mum or just first names im not sure what 'bump' should call us when he/she arrives??any ideas?? has anyone else here gone through this dilemma?? any ideas welcomed, thanks in advance of replies

[kandle]

We are due in 8 weeks and plan on being Mummy and Mummy. We will both be our child's Mummy and don't want to give this up. We talked and talked about it and tried all sorts of variations before coming back to the beginning.

We figure that the 3 of us will work it out together as baby grows.

[Goalie]

Congrats on your pregnancy ! We're known as Mummy A and Mummy S (first letters of our first names).

I've found as our DS has got older (he's just under 2), that what we're known as is getting more important - so make sure you're really comfortable with your choices. By this I mean would you feel comfortable with your little one shouting out Mummy X or Mummy Y in a supermarket (you can get some strange looks from others as to why our DS added X or Y at the end of Mummy).

At the end of the day I figure if he isn't comfortable with what we've called ourselves, he'll soon let us know.

[drivingmisscrazy]

yes, they work it out themselves, pretty much. DD (2) has tried numerous variations: mummy/mammy, mummy d (my name)/mummy r, mostly it's mummy and 'other mummy' which gets used for whichever one of us is not present, or currently wrestling her to the ground making her do something she doesn't want to do. Her grammar is impeccable, even if her manners are not!

[drivingmisscrazy]

as in, 'no, I want other mummy, I want jelly (for breakfast)' :o

[tinksie]

Thanks so much, Id really like us both just to be mummy, but we werent sure how this would work in reality, so good to hear were not the only ones :) :) I know its a bit early to be worrying about such things, but we reckoned its a good idea to be 'well informed~well in advance' lol perhaps a lil bit overexcited too tbh!!! think we'll have to see what comes naturally to the lil sproglet when he/she gets here.
ps drivingmisscrazy, sounds like youve got your hands full hey :) like the mummy/other mummy idea, also lol @ impeccable grammar, even if manners are not XD

[drivingmisscrazy]

ps. she's a totally normal 2 year old - not really a handful at all! I think people can get a bit panicked about the 'other mother' thing - but DD uses it interchangeably for both of us...

well-informed - yes, good plan. Only a plan - and like most of the ones that you currently have, you'll be throwing it in the bin!

but good luck!

[minicorrect]

DD is 2 this week and still calls us both mummy - we didn't push anything on her and let her decide what she wanted. We still get asked ALL the time what terms we use, but so far mummy and mummy works just fine. If it doesn't we'll probably find a solution along the way.

I did like milma for me as I was her milk mummy, but think everyone else thought I was a bit weird so didn't pursue it!

[Skifit]

Mummy and Mummy i guess, but when really needing to differentiate for example , MummyBarbara and MummyMary etc etc .

[drivingmisscrazy]

mini and ski, yes that's waht DD does, pretty much...

[hp3011]

We're using mum and mummy at the moment. They're only 3 months at the mo so, as with many of my other plans, I'm sure that will change once they have an opportunity for input:)

[KateandKatie]

We're in the process of trying for our first at the minute and are constantly having the discussion of what to be known as to the baby, especially since we both have the same first name too! We get through every day life by being Kate and Katie or Katie 1 and Katie 2 (very annoying but my mother in law insists! grr) but how on earth we do this when the baby arrives I have no idea, other half is happy to be mum from the start, whereas i like mummym but im guessing at 15 the poor love wont be too happy still calling me mummy and selfish as i am, id then quite like to me mum! Think we'll probably both end up being mummy then mum and using 'other mummy' routine, just wondering how child will explain to other poeple who he/she means, dont want to go down the whole, brown haired mummy, blonde haired mummy street!

[Monstrosity]

We are Mama and Mummy, and DD differentiates between us. When people say to her where's Mama she points to the right Mum so it seems to be working for now anyway. We have always thought she will decide what to call us when she can talk, so we may end up as mummy and other mummy which is fine too.

I just really didn't want to use our names, as other people in the family then dropped the mummy part and started referring to DP as
just her name, which upset her a bit as she thought people saw her as less of a mum as I'm the SAHM. I know friends who use mummy (their name) and it works for them though.

Congratulations on your pregnancy!

[CarerTo6]

We are Mommy and Mummy. Baby is only 7 months, but it works for us so far. I'm sure he will decide when he is older but we didn't want to use our names on the end and we're both happy. We felt he needed a way of differentiating between us when he needed to and eg when writing Christmas cards etc.

[Diamond2011]

Great Topic!! Ours is due on 11th Aug, not long now. Weve had a huge dicussion about it and were going for the mummy and mummy option.

I am sure it will get confusing but im also sure that as our little man gets older his tone of voice will chnage depending on who he is asking for, so who knows it may work. Whatever you wish to be called your little one will probably have different ideas dont be too disapointed if its not the name you choose, im just glad our little one will be here soon xxx

[hester]

We're Mummy and Mama, but open to dds having their own views as they get older. Right now they're both happy with it

[saralyn]

I heard about one family where the DD calls her mothers Big mummy and Little mummy. (one mother is very petite and the other is tall and strong, so everyone realise who she is referring to

[wrighty2010]

Hi, I dont think it matters as long as you are both happy, remember families come in all shapes and sizes these days as long as the three of you are happy then thats all that matters. I think you should just go with mummy and mummy and see what happens. Congratulations by the way!! xx

[FarelyKnuts]

We started off as Mama (me) and MamaAnn (my partner). Our now 2yo DD however decided that MamaAnn's name was actually Mamaí and has called her that since she started talking :) Works for her :o

[FlamingoBingo]

Little bit late, and no direct experience, but plenty of parents just have their children call them by their names, and I kind of wish DH and I had done so as well, actually.

Feels a bit weird setting us apart from them by us having special names and not them!

Anyway, obviously would be the ideal solution for same-sex parents.