DD is 14 in July, 2 years ago she told us she was bisexual and the whole family was supportive, she openly talked about who she liked and who she was going out with at the time, she's had 2 boyfriends and 1 girlfriend since then.
Last year she told us she was actually pansexual and again we've been supportive and communication was good until 2 months ago when one day she told us she wants to be male and all her friends call her by her chosen male name, I tried to ask a few questions for example how long has she felt like this (answer was a while) and would she like to talk to anyone about it like a doctor or therapist but that's when she screamed I hate therapists and run out of the room. She's never seen a therapist before so don't know where the strong reaction came from and since then she refuses to talk about it and will walk away if me or dh try to talk about it.
My confusion comes from the fact it was so out of the blue and she's never acted like a 'typical' boy would. She's never complained or been upset by having periods, boobs or curvy hips and is always wearing skinny Jean's or a skirt with a cropped shirt, she even wore a short dress to youth club last week. She has long hair and loves having it curled or styled, has more nail varnish than the local salon and rarely goes out without make up. She's very girly.
For the past month we've just ignored the whole subject so no arguments are started but yesterday she sent me a text from a friends phone saying "mum it's Bob (not real chosen name) I'm going to be late". I thought when she got home it would be a good time to bring it up again as I mistakenly thought she was opening up again by using her chosen male name but nooooo I was so wrong and as soon as I asked if we could talk she shut me down and run off to her bedroom.
I just don't know what to do, should I just leave her alone until she comes to me?
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DD says she wants to be male but refuses to talk to anyone about it
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MumGoneCrazy · 04/05/2019 22:50
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