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Should I let my 7 yo boy wear nail varnish at school?

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Twoprinces Mon 17-Jul-17 16:59:44

My 7 yo son has started to want to wear nail varnish at school, the more colourful the better.

I'm in 2 minds as to let him. On one hand he displays several mannerisms that could be considered quite 'camp'. Whilst I'm keeping an open mind at the minute, is 7 too young to suspect your child may be gay, I am mindful that I would never want to impose hetrosexist rules upon him in order that, if he does turn out to be gay, I make him feel that something is 'wrong' with him and cause him to struggle with his sexuality?

On the other hand he does also have autism, which may account for him being non-conofrmist, and is statistically at a lot greater risk of being bullied. I wouldn't want to do, or allow him to do, anything that put him at greater risk and could make his life really miserable.

It boils down to do I make my boy miserable by making him feel weird for his choices or do I allow others to make him miserable by exposing him to bullies.

Please let somebody be able to offer a third way.

Thisandthat1248 Tue 06-Aug-19 14:54:19

If the school allows nail varnish, you don't mind your kids wearing nail varnish and you kid wants to wear it then it seems like a pretty simple answer.

Iamdobby63 Tue 06-Aug-19 19:47:51

My son always wanted to wear nail varnish, his school had a no nail varnish policy so it was an evening and weekend thing.... I do remember leaving it on his toes one time and getting the strangest look from one of the teachers.

It’s very difficult because although we may be open to embracing our children no matter what - it always very worrying when the rest of the world is involved. The big question OP is how does your son cope with the bullying he already receives? (I wouldn’t let up until the school sort that by the way). My son wouldn’t have coped (when he was younger) and more wanted to blend into the background.

You could always just say that you don’t believe that nail varnish is suitable for School regards of the schools rules.

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