This morning I saw my son’s phone downstairs while he was asleep upstairs. It isn’t something I would usually do but I decided to have a look as I have concerns about his recent behaviour and the phone was unusually unlocked. He had also been out for a walk to ‘get some fresh air’ last night around 9:30pm which I though was out of the ordinary.
What I found on his phone were text messages from several different boys/men making arrangements to meet up. It looks as though he hadn’t gone through with meeting most of them but there was one male that he had met up with and seemed keen to meet again. It was clear from the messages that my son was wanting to meet up with these men to have gay sex for the first time.
This understandably has made me very concerned for his safety as I am worried he doesn’t know the people he is arranging to meet and possibly lose his virginity to. He is still very young and vulnerable and it troubles me greatly that he’s putting himself in these risky situations.
I have always had a feeling that my son was gay/bisexual and last year we had a situation where we found out he was looking at gay porn online. I had a conversation with him and reassured him that all his family want is for him to be happy regardless of his sexuality.
In an ideal world I would like for my son to meet someone and for his first time to be with someone he loves/cares for rather than a random off the internet but I hear it sadly doesn’t happen like that anymore?!
I feel I have to have a conversation with him to make sure he’s aware of the risks he is taking and what he can do to reduce these risks. It’s such a sensitive subject and I want him to feel that he can talk to me (or someone else) about his feelings. I don’t want him to feel he is alone in this.
I would really appreciate some advice on how to approach this with my son.
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Al183 · 25/06/2017 11:19
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