DD started sixth form college in September. She has lots of friends and is really enjoying it. One of her longstanding friends (A) quickly became really good friends with a new girl (B). A month or so ago DD told me that she was attracted to B and they were dating. Bit of a surprise, as she's only gone out with boys before, but we just said, "Fine, carry on".
Anyway, today DD had a half day at college and asked if I would give her a lift home, and also drop B at the station. I said fine, (because I was pretty nosy to meet B anyway).
Anyhow I pick them up, and A, who lives near us, is there too, (I often give A a lift home) but it soon becomes clear A and B are both going to the station, and off shopping; they are all glammed up and giggly and excited.
At home, I ask DD why she hadn't gone and she said they hadn't asked her and she wasn't bothered. But I'm pretty sure she was.
So what is the etiquette here? If they were all friends, then I'd say the other girls were pretty rude to blag a lift and then exclude her. If B was DD's boyfriend going off with a mate I probably wouldn't think twice about it.
But this seems to fall somewhere between the two because they are all mates as well as the relationship. DD is lovely and I don't want her to be messed about by someone who isn't nice, (and A isn't always nice). Am I being daft to feel a bit miffed on DD's behalf? Feels like B just wants DD for the lesbian stuff, (DD is very pretty) but doesn't see her as a person.
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What is the etiquette here?
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TinklyLittleLaugh · 10/12/2015 16:23
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