Hi I am new here and was signposted to this thread because I wasn't getting much positive response for my post.My initial problem was that I was concerned that my dd (who is 8) has always shown gender confusion from such a young age 3..... I have been fully supportive with all of her wishes but just lately she was approaching a friend her age with letters saying,do you love me and she has told me she thinks this girl is attractive,I think I panicked as I didn't want her to alienate herself from her friends so my post was saying that she had 'come out'I was greeted with a lot of abuse with the general opinion being that 8 is too young to think of this in any way at all,and that I was guilty of pushing sexual orientation on her,it certainly upset me as I was trying to support her and have only ever answered her questions.just lately she has become comfortable to talk openly about sexuality and does question the ways of the world.i have just googled a few ideas to see where I have quite obviously been going wrong and it has made me feel really bad because I can certainly see she has gender confusion,this is fine but she is such an anxious child I need to parent this in the right way,I feel it could be my fault,I don't really get along with women overall,I prefer men to chat to,always have ( sorry that isn't aimed at MNetters)my hair is short,( very) I do male dominated sport but I am so happy that way,I do question why I am like this but there really isn't a need for me to answer this for myself,I am content but what if she isn't.
She has done a brilliant job of being accepted just as she is,she holds her own ,when she talks about fancying this girl,is this just experimental stuff.....oh all the questions.....,my brother is gay and his coming out wasn't handled at all well by my parents and this plays closely in my mind too........aaaaaghhhhh sorry it's long.....
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I am confused- I feel responsible for my dd'ss gender issues
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suntansally · 03/04/2014 20:12
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