Am I being unreasonable to think that my mum should get over herself?
(Was going to post in AIBU but decided against it - because think people on this board might be more supportive .
I am a regular poster but have name changed due to the sensitive nature of this post.
My sister, who is 5 years younger than me is a lesbian and has been living with her life partner for around 6-7 years. My sister told my parents about 15 years ago (ie when she was around 20) that she was either bisexual or lesbian and was working it out, since then she concluded that she was not bisexual but was lesbian.
I have always been supportive (she told me around 18 years ago), and although my other sister and my brother weren't so supportive etc initially, they have since got over it.
My sister is 18 weeks pregnant (IUI with sperm donor) and I am very happy for her. However my mother will not accept it at all. My mum has over the past 15 years said some pretty hateful stuff - initially saying that she thought the lesbianism was a "phase" and that my sister was doing it just to hurt my mum. Also worse stuff that I don't really want to do into her, but along the lines that my sister shouldn't have children due to her being an abomination (yes my parents are religious but that hasn't stopped my Dad getting over it). Me, my other sister and brother are also religious and we have got over it to.
So what now? My sister said she went out for dinner and my mum didn't ask how she was - basically she (my mum) is still in denial about situation. Will this change when the baby arrives? My sister and my parents both live abroad in same country - around 45 min drive between them (ie different cities) - but near compared to me.
And how can I help my sister? She lives abroad but we speak often (ie whatapp several times a day).
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Will my mum get over herself? re: lesbian daughter?
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sisterquestion · 02/01/2014 20:50
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