How does one choose guardians for the kids when no-one wants to do it? Thats what stopping us. in-laws will take the two teenage boys ifthey * have* too but they refuse to take dd cos she is disabled (they wont even look at her) and there's no-one else
needmorecoffee - I have nominated a guardian who will not in all likelihood be able to take DS as she will be too old however as his guardian it will be her job to decide the best thing for him if the worst happens. Thast gives enough flexibility that he can go to whomever is most appropriate at the time. Is there someone you trust to make the right decision who you can discuss it with?
No-one is ever the right person to rais your children and their needs change over time so the right person now might not be the right person in 10 years time.
Thansk for link though I haven't got around to this.
Kewcumber is right - the person you appoint by will as guardian does not have to be the person who would take your children to live with them in the event you went under a bus - it is simply the person who you want to have a say in their upbringing.
Obviously, if you have got an plan as to who will have the children if you die before they are grown up, so much the better. The legal guardian bit is very different.
if misery loves company needmorecoffee - DS would most likely go to either my sister (who has already said that she would send him to a "lovely boarding school, money no object" ) or my slightly deranged brother.