So basically a member of our family has a small debt that they must pay for monthly- they do not earn a lot of money at all and it is a great stress for them. I have looked into anonymously paying this off for them so they don’t have to worry about it but have been told due to data protection etc the finance company wouldn’t be able to talk to me about the account which is fair enough. Should I offer this person to pay it off for them? Or would this be considered rude? I don’t want them to feel like a charity case or anything but I know they struggle and honestly just love them and want to help. Any thoughts? Happy to be told to butt out!
(So not to drip feed we came into a significant amount of money recently so it wouldn’t be like we have better jobs then them etc although we haven’t said anything about this money as didn’t want to seem boastful)
I would post an envelope with cash in through the letterbox. I would hate that the person I helped would know it was me and have to feel or act grateful. I have done this a few times and it really is a lovely feeling knowing you’ve helped someone with absolutely no strings attached.
Don't put money through the door, that's a really bad suggestion
It's a lovely thing to want to do, maybe offer to pay it off as a loan that only has to be repaid if or when they can afford it. They will save the interest of the original debt and reduce the worry about making the payments.
I would be worried though as money and family members has a habit of going wrong
However, depending on the person, they may be too 'proud' to accept it. So perhaps you could offer to pay it off and transfer the debt to you, where you could give them better terms which you'd forget to enforce or cancel at a later date?
Hi wow thanks for the replies! They are a sibling and partner, we had mulled over the envelope through the door idea but we’re worried because if someone put that much through our door without us knowing where it came from we’d likely report it to the police for fear we had someone else’s money! Some good ideas to think about though thank you
I would just tell them and then pay direct to the company. I paid direct to two of my chidren's mortgage lenders (with their consent - so not anonymously) and there was no problem with it. In fact we posted a cheque special delivery with the reference number on and did it with a letter signed by the adult child but it was a cheque drawn on my account - no problems with the lender accepting it.
I think you should talk to them. There are ways you can save their pride. Remind them of a time they've given you help in the past. Or you could ask if they would help you if you were in financial difficulties. Tell them you don't like seeing them sad because of debt (so it's for you really).
I would make sure it's paid , in the nicest possible way most people who have debt aren't very co trolled with money so with a big amount in their hands they may spend it and not pay off the debt ... offer to pay but say you want proof it's been paid .