I could really do with some advice before I seek a solicitor. I was married previously and XH left me in loads of debt so I had a CCJ and defaults (which are luckily all starting to come off my file)
I got together with current H and because of my awful credit rating he bought the house we are currently in in his name only and his name only on mortgage. We got married 6 months after that.
I had sold my house and paid of my debts a couple of months after he bought this house.
My name is still not on the deeds in spite of me having asked repeatedly. I have no security. He says it isn't neccessary as 1) bad credit rating 2) I am now his wife so if he died it's all mine anyway.
His family is toxic and I wouldn't trust them as far as I could throw them. I have two DC that live with us and DSS that lives with us full time too.
If he values your feelings surely he should listen to how you feel though??
One way forward might be to suggest putting your name on the feeds but decide whether it's as joint tenancy or tenants in common - that way depending on which you went for you can each own 50/50 rather than both owning 100%. This is a commonly overlooked issue. But that way it doesn't matter what his will says, you definitely have 50%.
I'd push the issue if you've been clearly your debt. If anything happened to him you'd have a lot of issues trying to sort out mortgage payments, bills etc if your name isn't on anything and that would be a nightmare (I've seen this happen!)
Google "Right to reside in the Marital Home" - it will direct you to the CAB website which explains how to register your rights so that if the worst comes tothe worst you and the children will still have a roof over your heads.