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Where do I stand?

(10 Posts)
sugarplum32 Tue 08-Jul-14 11:32:57

My ex-boyfriend says I owe him money, when we were together he bought himself a new car and wanted to take out a special insurance for it but wasn't sure about affording it so I said I would try and help him out but he would have to wait for my next pay day . so he signed up for this.

Within a month we had split up under horrible circumstances and he was violant and was arrested, he sent me a text message yesterday saying politely he was asking for this money back because I said I would pay it.

Where do I stand ? I don't want to pay it and I don't even want to speak to him. I paid for bills etc and improvements to his home while I was living there and feel this is unfair of him

He sent me a horrible message the other week saying that I could of destroyed his reputation by him being arrested etc and he could do the same back to me but he hasn't - though I'm really not sure how or what he could say , but its still worrying me what he could do ?

Many Thanks in advance

Pangaea Tue 08-Jul-14 11:40:25

Tell him to do one.

Cheeky bastard.

TalkinPeace Tue 08-Jul-14 13:38:33

report to the police for threatening behaviour and ignore him.

CogitoErgoSometimes Tue 08-Jul-14 13:47:27

As it was a vague promise or verbal agreement rather than something you signed up to in writing, he doesn't have a leg to stand on. Keep the text messages and report them immediately to the police as evidence of continued harassment and threats. What does he mean 'he could do the same back to me'? Is he trying to say you were violent towards him? Or does he have some other information that he could use against you? Again, it's more evidence of threatening behaviour and should be immediately reported.

sugarplum32 Tue 08-Jul-14 14:41:10

Thank you for the replies

No I was never violent but he said "I have pictures of you I could have put them on the internet , but I havn't cos I'm a decent man ! "( which I dont get because I never did those sort of pictures with him) I think thats what he meant by getting revenge .

I will keep the messages - he is clever and never says anything horrible just polite over messages , he starts with the horrible stuff over the phone

OneLittleToddleTerror Tue 08-Jul-14 14:44:58

The thing is, if he's prepared to use those pictures (assuming he took them without your knowing), and you fork over money this time. Do you think he'll stop? He'll think that's a easy way to get money, and next time when he's in trouble, he'll bring this back and extort you more money.

Pangaea Tue 08-Jul-14 14:54:28

And this is why revenge porn should be illegal.

Its all talk OP, don't let him blackmail you.

CogitoErgoSometimes Tue 08-Jul-14 17:38:58

Do report him to the police over the messages. He's already been arrested once and the more documented information the police have about his behaviour, the less he can claim it was a one-off or some kind of malicious act on your behalf. He's abusive and clearly not the type to walk away without making himself very unpleasant. You need all the big guns on your side that you can get

kickassangel Tue 08-Jul-14 17:48:57

That's dangerously close to blackmail. Give him money or he will put pictures on the internet and/or get you arrested.

Nomama Sun 13-Jul-14 18:39:19

Police now! Don't wait, phone them and show them the messages.

Leave him to them. They will be used to dealing with nasty shits like him. Let them do their jobs.

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