Because they dont support children, they support the men
My ex has tried every which way to wriggle out of paying full maintenance.
+ he said she sleeps over infact he sees her once a fortnight in his mums
+ he said he has another child living with him infact,he lives on his own in the house we bought together
Each time I rang the CSA and explained the truth to them. This time though he surpassed himself.
His ex wife (they split up before we got together) has a son. My ex-p has always called him his own son, even though he isnt. He has changed his name on the birth certificate aswell (is that legal??)
He has a standing arrangement with his ex to pay £80 a month to her directly. He has now got her to apply to the CSA (they are on good terms)
In other words, my daughter gets £20 less a week because of this. We were living together when I fell pregnant, she was very much wanted but since things have turned sour he thinks he can treat her like this
So, can I ask the CSA to insist on a DNA test? Does it work like that? Can anyone help me?
If he and his ex were married, they presumably got divorced and any maintenance for the child would have been dealt with at that time. It doesn't matter if the child was not his biologically. If it had been treated as a child of the family, he would have had a duty to maintain it.
I'm not sure why she is now able to apply to the CSA if there is already a court order in place with which he was complying. Presumably when you put in your claim through the CSA, he would have declared that he was supporting another child at that time.
Chances are that, by applying to the CSA, she may well end up with less than he was paying her previously.
welshboris, I sympathise. No advice I am afraid. I got child support from x for one year out of 14 and then it just stopped and CSA don't seem to be able to do anything. In these situations it is the children who suffer. It makes me so angry.
yeah, but he's a man so responsibility has to be pummelled into most of them.. it has taken me 12 years to get dh to the reasonable level he's at now. He was crap with money. i put £1500 aside one year for his tax bill when he was self employed and he spent it all on records and crap without me knowing. Now he has to ask me for money