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£100 per week better off apart and one less adult.

(84 Posts)
Offred Fri 03-May-13 17:11:49

My husband is a supposed high earner.

I have just checked how money would be if we split, I would have to claim benefits as young children and currently studying.

After he has paid tax our income for six is £100 less per WEEK than we would get if he left and I claimed benefits. Surely this isn't correct? This is without CSA payments and we wouldn't have the expense of feeding him and paying his bills...

Offred Fri 03-May-13 21:55:05

Where exactly have I benefit bashed?

ballstoit Fri 03-May-13 21:56:17

To clarify why people are being arsey see the final line of my last post.

What are you studying? Journalism sponsored by the Daily Fail?

CarolBornAMan Fri 03-May-13 21:57:44

I am being factual - your DH brings home about £700 a week - I have asked you to show how the state will provide you with more than that - what is your problem with supporting your original post?

ballstoit Fri 03-May-13 21:57:53

Pretending that benefits gives you more cash than a high earners salary is stealth bashing IMO

Offred Fri 03-May-13 21:58:59

I'm not benefit bashing. I'm pissed off that we'd apparently be better off apart and as I asked in the original post thinking that can't be right... If people are being arsey because they have decided to read into the post things I have not written and which are entirely inconsistent with anything else I've posted on here or that I think then I think they need to reconfigure their knickers.

CarolBornAMan Fri 03-May-13 21:59:26

the £700 is after tax - you do understand this right? just checking you dont see your DH pre tax salary as the same as paid benefits ..

Offred Fri 03-May-13 22:00:07

I'm not pretending, that is what you have decided.

We, as people would undoubtedly be better off apart, no matter the actual fine differences between income on benefits because we would have virtually or actually double the income if we split.

Offred Fri 03-May-13 22:01:09

(And not double the outgoings)

CarolBornAMan Fri 03-May-13 22:01:53

you have said you think it cant be right - and we have all asked you to show how you arrived at the numbers. You have not.

Not sure of the point to an unsubstantiated post .. I may as well post why do people not say I am as beautiful as Kate Moss and not post a photo. If you want support , post your evidence for gods sake

ballstoit Fri 03-May-13 22:02:03

Okay, the answer to your question is, no. It is not correct. And nor apparently is your husbands tax code.

Offred Fri 03-May-13 22:03:16

I can't post my husband's wage, it isn't my information to share. People appear to have been perfectly able to highlight what may be the problem without the exact wage so I'm afraid your point seems rather irrelevant.

ballstoit Fri 03-May-13 22:03:56

Go for it then...all that extra cash will make being a lp a walk in the effing park angry

EhricLovesTeamQhuay Fri 03-May-13 22:07:22

That just can't be right. You'd get around 140 hb, 60 pw per child, 70 income support plus cb. With 4 kids that would be...around 500 per week, yup. And your dh earns over £40k and takes home £400 a week? I don't see how that is possible. When I was full time on £28k I took home more than that.

CarolBornAMan Fri 03-May-13 22:07:44

I think it is your post that is groundless as you cant show us how the state will support you and your kids on more money than your husband earns, despite it being anonymous and your ability to provide a ballpark figure - not sure what your intent was but I would say, better luck next time with trying to put forward an intelligent argument

Offred Fri 03-May-13 22:08:37

please, readjust your judgy pants... I am not benefit bashing... Exactly the opposite in fact. People who know me would find the suggestion I might do that absolutely unbelievable. One year we over paid £6k on an income of £49k before tax. Possible tax code is very wrong although meant to have been sorted.

CarolBornAMan Fri 03-May-13 22:11:07

so I go back to my original point - show me how I can earn over £45K a year on benefits.

EhricLovesTeamQhuay Fri 03-May-13 22:11:41

Plus if you currently pay a mortgage rather than rent then a decent chunk of that monthly outgoing is investment rather than proper outgoing. Are you adding up your dh's wage after pension contributions? Because that's another investment. Deduct what he pays in capital on the mortgage and towards his pension from your outgoings and you will find his income £££ goes up considerably.

louisianablue2000 Fri 03-May-13 22:11:54

Ah, so in a previous year he underpaid tax so now he is overpaying tax to balance that? I'm assuming he is self employed?

ssd Fri 03-May-13 22:12:36

op, is this a stealth benefit bashing thread???

if you feel you'd be better off without your high earning dh supporting you, go ahead, separate, live on benefits for a year, come back and tell us how cushy you have it



CarolBornAMan Fri 03-May-13 22:12:41

why can you not show us your workings out - does not matter what your high earning DH earns - just show me more than £45K as my hard working DH teacher earns just £35K ..

EhricLovesTeamQhuay Fri 03-May-13 22:13:19

You are benefit bashing (maybe inadvertently) because you are suggesting that you could have a better income and therefore quality of life if you were a LP on benefits rather than living with your high rate taxpayer husband. Believe me, living on benefits doesn't pay better than working. It just doesn't.

ssd Fri 03-May-13 22:13:40

"people who know me"

ask them, then

SodaStreamy Fri 03-May-13 22:22:26

I'm reading this more as if the OP and her husband separated 'on paper' and she claimed benefits they would have more money , which of course they would but if they were still a couple just living in separate locations and pretending to be a single parent they would also be committing benefit fraud

CarolBornAMan Fri 03-May-13 22:27:29

I think she is more of a DM reader getting hysterical over benefits for larger families as she is not prepared to give actual numbers here ..

there is something not ringing true about any of her posts as nothing is backed up

ivykaty44 Fri 03-May-13 22:41:24


If your dh earns 49k then his take home pay should be £681 per week

If you dh earns 40k then his take home pay should be £576 per week

you are saying op that your income would be £100 per week more than this -so nearly £700 per week for 4 children and yourself

You are living in cloud cuckoo land and that is why you can't come up with the figures - you don't have the figures

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