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examles of unreasonable behaviour needed

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humblemum Tue 03-Nov-09 09:44:05

Hi, Im just completing my divorce papers and H and I have come to an agreement that we will site his unreasonable behaviour as the reason for divorce, as we dont want to mention the real reason. (or is this illegal??) So what plausible exmples can I give that the court will accept. Anyone know?

humblemum Tue 03-Nov-09 11:06:02


tinierclanger Tue 03-Nov-09 11:08:22

Well, something like staying out all night without letting each other know, or when asked to be at home.

Refusing to go to family events or things where it's normal to be with a partner.

Stuff like that... probably you can use real examples that lie around your underlying actual issue.

thehairybabysmum Tue 03-Nov-09 11:26:09

My friends ex cited that she used to iron his shirts with the sleeves rolled up. She got fed up of constantly having to unroll them despite repeated asking on her part, so her reasoning was that as he rolled them up immediately anyway she might as well wash and iron them like that!!!

This was genuinely one of the unreasonable behaviours on their divorce shock grin!!!

mumofsatan Tue 03-Nov-09 13:00:42

you can (depending on the Court and Judge) normally get away with 3 or 4 quite vague allegations, ie the respondent has failed the show the petitioner love and support over the recent years of the marriage/has refused to go out socially with her/forgotten her birthday/made unkind commments/belittled her etc etc. Several of these particulars of behavior can be over the past few years however you will need something more specific and up to date. Eg a time when he has done something a bit less vague. Any recent arguements that can be used and its best to have it in the last month or so in order that it looks like the last straw.

No need to be a 'mud slinging' exercise as some people do

Biobytes Tue 03-Nov-09 13:07:42

Don't lie, just don't get into details. ie. If your husband didn't allow you to work and locked you into the bedroom so you couldn't go in his absence you can say:

a- That he has been violent and controlling


b- That he has failed to support your career ambitions through out the marriage.

Examples of unreasonable behaviour there are many. I have a divorce book that lists "nagging" as one of them.

But I insist, don't lie. You may need to quote it in the future when you are wondering how to separate the assets or decide with whom should the children be with.

humblemum Tue 03-Nov-09 14:03:19

We dont have children and were only married 21 months!!! the reason we dont want to mention the 'real reason' is that it involved a criminal offence and basically I want him to sign a consent order so that i get to keep MY house and he keeps his pension etc.

Biobytes Tue 03-Nov-09 14:11:10

I think that considering how short the marriage was, it would be unlikely to get a 50-50 divide of the assets, more so if the house was yours before marriage.

I wouldn't leave out a criminal offense, why to do that?? I remember when ex and I were filling the paperwork we thought that we didn't want to write anything that made our child judge either of us in negative way, if he got to read those papers in his adulthood, when we died or whatever. It was about to protect him. But, if there are no children, why not?

Seek legal advice for the separation of assets, you really need it, more so if he has a criminal background. It is money well spent, it could save LOT of heartache in the future.

humblemum Tue 03-Nov-09 15:16:48

thanks Bio I have sought legal advice and know what im doing as far as the assets go, im not using a conventional solicitor now, I am doing it ONLINE and I just wanted some ideas of good enough reasons. All sorted now tho. Thanks again for your input.

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