divorce

[stillkissingfrogs]

i have discovered that DH has had an affair i obviously want a divorce due to this and he is requesting 50% of the equity as i wish to keep the property. I want to keep the property as it is what my children know as their settled home. But i cant afford mortgage if the payments go any higher. We also have a loan in DH's name for joint debts that we cleard this is about 8k and has two years left to run. I would like for him to pay the loan and let me keep his share of the equity which is about 13k but in return i would take less in child maintance. I should also add that his affair is with a friend and our children were close so it is not really an appropriate relationship. Im concerned regarding the impact this will have on my children when they find out as they are only 8 and 5 what do i do about access, can i restrict it to be away from the new partner?

[drlove8]

the only thing i can recomend is to get a good lawyer - ask about and get one that accepts legal aid.
As far as the restrictions on access to keep ow away from your children , i dont think you can insist on it.
if the loan is in H`S name only then its his problem , not yours - dont let him use it as a barganing tool to cut your maintenence.
i think getting your maintenence sorted out first would give you an idea of whether you can afford to keep your home.
have you extra rooms?, mabey you could let one out to a friend/friends student offspring/relative?
oh i think you should notify the bank/mortgage provider that you are seperating and arrange that you are only liable for half the mortgage - so that if he decides not to pay it , it wont affect your credit/ ability to get a mortgage on your own.
You have been treated appalingly by this man and a so -called-friend , dont let them take the piss anymore...you and your children deserve better. its hard at the moment, but it will get better. .