Child arrangements order

[Fluffyunicorn1]

Hi was hoping for some advice

My ex was extremely abusive in every way. 2019 charged with assault, 2020 charged with malicious communications and was given a restraining order, breeched this 3 times and served 2 prison sentences. Last sentence was completed in December.

While he was in prison I got a prohibited steps order and a non mol order. The restraining order only stopped him from contacting me and coming to my address so solicitor advised non mol to prevent him going to school etc.

Since December he has left me alone as in he hasn’t contacted me or come near me. However, he has made accusations to social services numerous times anonymously (obviously I know it’s him).

Anyway his mum keeps telling me (she’s still in contact with the kids) that he’s taking me to court and apparently there was some sort of hearing last Monday. I contacted my solicitor who contacted the court and the court said no applications had been made. I rang Cafcass who said they’d not been asked to make any enquiries since I put mine in for the prohibited steps order.

When his mum mentioned it again last week I said well according to my solicitors findings he hasn’t done anything. She then sent me a screenshot of a message he’d sent her with the first page of the c100. This was dated the 22nd jan. am I right in thinking that I should have been served papers for this by now if this was the case?

Also his mum said something about this hearing that was meant to be Monday was something to do with the judge saying whether he should apply to court or not? My solicitor wasn’t sure what I was talking about when I said that

Any advice would be welcomed. My dd10 doesn’t want anything to do with him. My dd5 is too young to say really but she hasn’t mentioned him and doesn’t ask for him. His mum has often tried to talk dd10 into wanting to see him but she’s pretty headstrong and tells her she’s scared of him and she’s not interested

[Princessbanana]

Can I ask? Is there a reason that you or your children are in contact with his mum? Is it court ordered?

[Fluffyunicorn1]

@Princessbanana

No not court ordered I just thought as she was a grandparent I would try to keep that relationship going

[prh47bridge]

The fact he may have filled out a C100 in January doesn't mean he has done anything with it. He cannot get a CAO without your knowledge. If he does apply you will have an opportunity to oppose his application.

[Fluffyunicorn1]

Am I right in thinking that if he did apply I would have heard something by now? It’s court stamped and dated so I assume the court has received it

[Skeptadad]

Why don’t you ring the courts in your area? Maybe they can give you an update.

Courts are very busy at the moment. It took over a 5 weeks for my court order to be processed.

[Soontobe60]

The fact that his mother tries to persuade your DD to see her father is enough for me to say she shouldn’t have further access to your dd.

[Fluffyunicorn1]

I tried ringing the court but they wouldn’t tell me anything. My solicitor is great. He chased the court too but didn’t come up with anything and seems to think that he’s made it all up and just to wait and see if I get any papers.

Where his mums concerned I don’t really speak to her. She speaks to the kids over video call. I feel like I’ve used all my strength getting this man out of my life I don’t have the strength to deal with her too.