Dividing furniture

[SparkleUK]

Hi all.
Divorced and just sold jointly owned house, no equity in it so no monetary gain for either. I stayed in it and paid everything whilst ex lived with mum. Ex has been left the house for nearly two years. Very long story full of him constantly changing what he wants from nothing, to everything, he'll go bankrupt, getting his DIL to threateningly message me etc.

We're meeting to sign house sale papers, he's saying he's bringing something he's wrote that he wants me to sign saying I'll give him £2500 and 4 items of furniture (one of these was a gift to me). We never had anything apart from house joint. He gave back his key and said he wasn't staying as he didn't want the responsibility of the dogs as I'd offered to leave initially.

When I disputed the money (he has debts that he wants me to help him pay off), he said he can't do anything about that but that means he will then be selfish about the house and he wants a full list of everything in it so he can get me to sign that to say he's having those things so he can take them to sell for his debts. I've said I will pay the slight mortgage shortfall, plus all solicitors fees etc.
As I say, he lives with his mum, I have a baby on the way with my partner and will be moving to a new home but he just keeps saying he's come off worse so needs to sort out this debt. Any advice? Thank you

[SparkleUK]

We were married for just over a year, bought house near end of 2017.

He's just sent me a list of what he wants from the house so he says, can sell them on to pay off his debt. I picked all of the bits in the house so he's gone for all of my 'shiny/glass' looking bits that he seems to think will generate him some money. Bearing in mind his only way to sell things will be on social media so he won't get much money and these items are over 2 years old now -

• A large full size mirror from my dressing room (both contributed towards paying for this but it was bought with the intent for my sole use)
• A makeup mirror from my dressing room (he bought this but as a gift to me, I did not ask for this, he surprised me with it)
• The chair out of my dressing room (same as with the large mirror above)
• Both other large mirrors that are in the house (I honestly cannot recall who bought out of these but surely both isn't fair?!)
• Both bedside tables (I bought these on my credit card)
• Both bedside lamps (I was given a Debenhams gift card in my old job which I used to buy these, supplemented with my own money)
• Every light fitting in the house (I'm fairly sure he only bought one, I'm sure the rest went on my credit card)
• The dining table (bought on a Next account in his name, I have never said he couldn't have this)
• A shelving unit (same as above, I said many times he could have this back)
• The only rug in the house (subsequently utilised very nicely by the dogs for lying on and a favourite of my elderly dog I recently lost for toileting when she couldn't hold it - it's not in horrendous condition but definitely wouldn't sell it to someone!)
• The only sofa in the house (there were two when he lived here but one of my darlings chewed the original years old one so I had to get rid of it and replace it in the living room with the newer, sofa bed one. Again, this was paid off every month via DFS by me and he's acknowledged in the message that it was in my name). I just finished paying this in August.

He said he thinks he can generate £1500 from that, maybe less but it's the least he deserves out of everything and I should let him know what I think

Bearing in mind this is nearly two years since he left, he has repeatedly demanded different things, e.g. he doesn't want anything, he wants a couple of bits of furniture and he wants the pots and pans out of the house (he told me he was a week away from moving into his own place but then that's transpired to be a lie), he wants £3800, I should get a loan out to pay him off then I can remortgage the house and he'll come off (despite it being up for sale at the time), if I sign the house over he won't ask for anything else (he didn't realise he'd have to get a mortgage in his own name for that to happen) to now this latest one, I can't take credibility in anything he says!
Hoping someone can possibly help, it's the stress of being contacted, never knowing when and what goalposts it will be this time. Can he just make demands out of nowhere? Scared he'll hold me to ransom over house sale.

[BentNeckLady]

Tell him to piss off.

Or not and smile until he’s signed the papers and then tell him to piss off.

[SparkleUK]

I'd love to!
I'm not disputing everything in total but just want to know what would be a fairer settlement offering

[ComtesseDeSpair]

It sounds like he’s trying to score points by demanding a load of, what quite frankly sounds like, old rubbish furniture and decor; and you’re trying to point score by refusing to let him have it. If he bought it or you bought it equally, let him have it, you’ve had the benefit of it since he left the house and I doubt your new partner wants all this stuff around anyway. Send him a list of stuff that falls into that category, tell him that’s fair and done and he needs to have it collected from the house by x date, and that you won’t be responding to any future messages about furniture.

[AJPTaylor]

Work out the second hand value of it all and offer him half. It's probably less than a hundred quid.

[Jon6b]

Light fittings should not be removed unless specifically excluded from the sale of the property. Ask him for his contribution to the estate agent fees, solicitor fees, and costs of professional clean the day you move out. I assume you didn't have a consent order as part of the divorce? If not, you should.

[millymoo1202]

I’d sell it all on Facebook for next to nothing and give him half and say see ya! 😂