Can anyone advise?/ Does anyone have any knowledge on this?
Within the last couple of years my sister and I were told about a trust fund set up by our Grandmother who has made this trust for her grandchildren and for the money to go towards a deposit for a house. This is great obviously and we are grateful for this!
However …
Though this is amazing of her to do, she is incredibly controlling. She has always tried to dictate what we do with our lives (jobs, university, who we should trust …). I am 25 and married for a 4 years with first baby on the way and very happy in my job which I’m studying alongside to eventually progress in that career (not that she approves of what I’ve chosen to do! My sister is also happy with what she is doing and is also studying towards what she wants to do (she is younger and still lives at home), of course her way of studying is not approved either and she is often nagged about this.
There is a lot more background I could give but here is the main part:
‘The grandmother’ has been obsessed for the last few months with this trust money (which she had to legally tell us about, otherwise she wouldn’t have told us). She keeps saying she wants us to sign something to say we are happy not to have the interest of this fund until we one day get the money, which we agreed to but haven’t signed anything yet. It would be nice to have the money but she doesn’t trust us, even though we would only put it into a savings account, so we are happy to agree to this.
She called us to say she wants us to sign the papers, which we thought was to agree to not having the interest from the trust fund until we got the full amount one day, HOWEVER, when she brought the papers they said something like ‘Though they are entitled to the money at 18, I (Grandmother) would prefer that they get the full amount at the age of 45’. Obviously it had more than this but this was the gist.
We have consistently been told (since she had to tell us about the money) that we can have the money towards a deposit for a house only from 25 and if we are losers or idiots (her own words) we won’t get it until 45. By the way, we are neither of these and both work very hard, she just doesn’t approve of our career choices because we’re not doctors or bankers.
We refused to sign these because they did not say what she had been telling us and we basically would be saying we are happy not to have it until 45 (which by then, hopefully we would have bought a house ourselves with money we have saved). She partly agreed (some lawyer had written it up and she has now asked them to change it).
One of my many questions is, does anyone know about this legally? We have narrowed it down to being possibly two different trust funds, either a ‘Bare fund’ or a ‘Discretionary fund’. If it is a bare fund, then she is panicking because we are legally entitled to it and she doesn’t want us to have it, because she wouldn’t be able to control the money/ us.
Hypothetically, if my husband and I wanted to buy a house, we would look at our income, find a house we wanted, go to the bank for a mortgage and ask her for the money for a deposit. BUT I 100% know that she will not approve because she said she and the other trustees will have to see our incomes (not that they’re bad, but she will think they are). So I’m trying to protect myself a bit here. It would be great to be able to live my life in a way I want to, and be able to use this money when I see it as viable and suitable, maybe in the next couple of years?
IF anyone has managed/ bothered to read this, then I am grateful. I don’t know how else to narrow it down. But if you can help, then ask as many questions as you like and I’ll try and reply :) Thanks.
P.S. I have generally had a good relationship with her, but she has made this very difficult lately. It’s all about the money for her. I am not trying to grab her money and run, I just want to make sure she is not trying to get us to sign something that we don’t have to.
Thanks again :)
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I'm a beneficiary of a trust fund, but it's just causing stress ...
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lovesT · 11/10/2019 13:24
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