have namechanged for this
just brief fact summary so I don't drip feed
dp and his ex (call her L) together 12 years. Split up 4 years ago. Lived in a house L could not afford without dp's salary so dp and her agreed (without lawyers) an amount over and above normal child maintenance so L could stay in the house with the dcs. It meant dp could only rent a room in a flat rather than get his own place so all access to the dcs was at L's house picking up and taking them out then bringing them back (one full day on the weekend, one tea time during the week).
Dp and me together around 18 months, dp living with me for 6. Dp has been asking since he's moved in whether I can meet the dcs so they can start coming to our house. L has been refusing saying it's too soon to meet me.
Dp saw the dcs last night when they were back from the holiday and it turns out they went away with L and her new partner. Dp asked L how long they had been going out and it turns out it's only 3 months. Dp wasn't even aware of this, let alone the fact that the dcs had been introduced to him. Dp then told her he didn't think it was fair that the dcs were introduced to him and been away on holiday with him without him knowing when she won't even grant access to let dp bring the kids back to where he lives or even meet me.
She told him tough, those are her conditions. There is no formal legal agreement between dp and L as it was all done informally. Can one now be drawn up, given the time that has happened since the split? Dp is actually devastated because he desperately wants more access to the dcs and it makes it so much easier if they can come and stay with us.
The dcs are 8 and 6.
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Rights of access for parents who weren't married on splitting up - can dp's ex block his access legally?
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WheelyBuggle · 12/08/2019 17:10
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