Hi! Sorry for the long post but I'm hoping to see if anyone else has been through this or similar that has any advice to offer!!
I was with my ex for 5 years, we split in June and honestly it's been the messiest break up ever!
I left him because he cheated the whole 5 years, including with my friend while I was in the house, he cheated when I was pregnant and gave me an STI, (also never told me until I got symptoms and had to have a csection). He mentally abused me, did nothing but insult me and question my ability as a mother. He emotionally abused me too, and had sex with me on a number of occasions while I slept. Nevertheless, he was actively a dad and I couldn't fault anything he did.
Since we split up, I was homeless for 3 months because at the time I was living in his mums house, and I couldn't stay there any longer as I was continuously bullied. So I stayed on a friends couch. He's now re-engaged and has a child due in July.
All he has done since is brain wash our 5 year old. My son screams and cries when I collect him (only if it's from his dads house) never from school. My son spends 4 nights a week with me and 3 with his dad. Every single time I go he tells me he doesn't want to come, which results in me picking him up and putting him in the car, which my ex thrives from.
When me and my son talks about it he always tells me that he cans speak about me when he's at daddy's because he'll shout, his dad tells him he doesn't like him coming to my house because he gets "too upset". My ex is very very clever.
I received court papers through the post a few weeks ago, where by my ex is trying to take full custody. I knew he was going to do this as he threatens me all the time with it. I'm terrified the judge will year my son say he wants to spend more time with his dad and me loose my custody because of what his dad had put in his head!
Am I doing something wrong? Am I not fun enough? Should I let him go to his dads more like he wants?? Deep down I know I shouldn't give his dad anymore than 3 days a week but am I going to loose anyway when I go to court???
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Abusive ex trying to get full custody :( help
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banino5 · 16/04/2019 20:58
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